Hi there! I have never posted but I have been a very silent lurker for a few months now.
A little BG, my husband and I have been together for nearly 6 years and married for 3. When we got together I was a strong confident women. I was a single mom to my 14 month old daughter. She went to her dads every other weekend and the weekends I didn't have her were mine to do with as I pleased. I was young (21) so my go to was to usually head DT with my friends. Dh has always been a party animal himself. Since being married and having children of our own I have settled down and became the usual stay at home mom, my life is boring and it revolves around my kids. Which is fine I love it most days. But my problem is dh's family constantly picks at me for my past and at my family. They have said things to me like how they never had hope for me to become the mother I am today, did I ever imagine I would be this happy, his sisters have said some god awful stuff about me. His dad constantly boundary stomps with our children, he went as far as saying that our son needs his papa because he is like his second daddy...wtf?!? This can't be normal right? But to my face they act like they are my best friend. Dh has even said some pretty shitty stuff like how he always imagined he would marry someone like his sisters, he has flat out told me he wanted paternity tests because if we were to ever divorce he has no proof our kids are his. That last sentence makes me sound like a really permiscuous girl but I wasn't and never have been I have only had one single night stand, and I can count on one hand the men I have slept with. There is so much more that has been said and done over the years that we have been together. Dh has never stood his ground for me when it comes to his family, and I cannot talk to him about it without him flipping shit. Lately I have gone into serious deep depression and all of this stuff is ringing in my head I have no confidence left all of that went out the window with the shit his family has said. I need to let go of all of this negativity and find myself again. Help me let go of what I cannot seem to forget. Am I wrong for being angry about this stuff? I love my husband but we have to find a middle ground somewhere.
A little BG, my husband and I have been together for nearly 6 years and married for 3. When we got together I was a strong confident women. I was a single mom to my 14 month old daughter. She went to her dads every other weekend and the weekends I didn't have her were mine to do with as I pleased. I was young (21) so my go to was to usually head DT with my friends. Dh has always been a party animal himself. Since being married and having children of our own I have settled down and became the usual stay at home mom, my life is boring and it revolves around my kids. Which is fine I love it most days. But my problem is dh's family constantly picks at me for my past and at my family. They have said things to me like how they never had hope for me to become the mother I am today, did I ever imagine I would be this happy, his sisters have said some god awful stuff about me. His dad constantly boundary stomps with our children, he went as far as saying that our son needs his papa because he is like his second daddy...wtf?!? This can't be normal right? But to my face they act like they are my best friend. Dh has even said some pretty shitty stuff like how he always imagined he would marry someone like his sisters, he has flat out told me he wanted paternity tests because if we were to ever divorce he has no proof our kids are his. That last sentence makes me sound like a really permiscuous girl but I wasn't and never have been I have only had one single night stand, and I can count on one hand the men I have slept with. There is so much more that has been said and done over the years that we have been together. Dh has never stood his ground for me when it comes to his family, and I cannot talk to him about it without him flipping shit. Lately I have gone into serious deep depression and all of this stuff is ringing in my head I have no confidence left all of that went out the window with the shit his family has said. I need to let go of all of this negativity and find myself again. Help me let go of what I cannot seem to forget. Am I wrong for being angry about this stuff? I love my husband but we have to find a middle ground somewhere.
