I haven't been on here in awhile and this is regarding my dads brother, my uncle. My uncle is a high achieving my in society's standards. He is a retired Navy officer of 28 years and also has a masters degree. He has 3 biological kids and two adopted kids. He thinks very highly of himself due to his station in life and his education.
Me and my uncle have never had a close relationship. Growing up we saw them very occasionally because both of our families were military. As an adult, we are pretty much strangers that happen to be related to each other. I don't go to him for advice, we don't send birthday/holiday cards, etc. He remarried about 7 years ago and his wife has literally never said 'hi' to me once when we have seen each other at family gatherings. When we do see each other in person, he demands to hold my child so that he can pretend to care about her for about 3 minutes before he hands her back to me and doesn't converse with me for the duration of the trip. So basically, we're not close.
Here is what happened. Last night I posted a post on the debil regarding a particularly rough day that I had at a part time job that I have been working seasonally to help our family earn a little extra money for the holidays. I talked about the poor treatment I had received while working at this job from the patrons buying what we happened to be selling and I touched a bit on how in my opinion people need a fair and livable wage, including those on the bottom of the pyramid because they are often being treated the worst while doing these menial jobs.
Now, we all know that you can't read a persons tone while reading something over text or something that is posted online. I was actually quite calm and collected as I wrote out this thoughtful post. I will add that I rarely post on Facebook besides sharing articles I find interesting and the occasional picture of my daughter. I rarely post personal things so it's not like I was being obnoxious about what I wrote my simply sharing on my own page about my feelings. That being said I know putting my words out there invites being responded to in ways I might not appreciate but I feel as though he is really out of line in how he responded. This is the second time that he has responded in what I feel like is a critical judge mental way when I post something on the debil sharing about a struggle I'm going through or being down on my luck.
When I read this I immediately felt judged, critiqued, wrongly accused and honestly like some child being lectured for 'whining' as he says. This man doesn't know me, my situation or my life amd he completely missed the point of what I was trying to say in my debil post. I am not ungrateful nor do I expect to be handed money for nothing. I'm a hard worker and am doing my best to succeed in this life. His response upset me greatly and really hurt my feelings but I don't want to give him the satisfaction of knowing that.
Can you daily ladies please read his message to me and give me some suggestions on how to respond? At this point I don't even care to have him in my life at all. Not that he really is, but I definitely won't be handing over my child to him ever again. I plan on just ignoring him when we do happen to cross paths.
I will post his message in the comments. Thank you!
ETA: I am attending school part time while being the primary caretaker of my 10 month old while also working a part time job. My boyfriend also works full time.
Me and my uncle have never had a close relationship. Growing up we saw them very occasionally because both of our families were military. As an adult, we are pretty much strangers that happen to be related to each other. I don't go to him for advice, we don't send birthday/holiday cards, etc. He remarried about 7 years ago and his wife has literally never said 'hi' to me once when we have seen each other at family gatherings. When we do see each other in person, he demands to hold my child so that he can pretend to care about her for about 3 minutes before he hands her back to me and doesn't converse with me for the duration of the trip. So basically, we're not close.
Here is what happened. Last night I posted a post on the debil regarding a particularly rough day that I had at a part time job that I have been working seasonally to help our family earn a little extra money for the holidays. I talked about the poor treatment I had received while working at this job from the patrons buying what we happened to be selling and I touched a bit on how in my opinion people need a fair and livable wage, including those on the bottom of the pyramid because they are often being treated the worst while doing these menial jobs.
Now, we all know that you can't read a persons tone while reading something over text or something that is posted online. I was actually quite calm and collected as I wrote out this thoughtful post. I will add that I rarely post on Facebook besides sharing articles I find interesting and the occasional picture of my daughter. I rarely post personal things so it's not like I was being obnoxious about what I wrote my simply sharing on my own page about my feelings. That being said I know putting my words out there invites being responded to in ways I might not appreciate but I feel as though he is really out of line in how he responded. This is the second time that he has responded in what I feel like is a critical judge mental way when I post something on the debil sharing about a struggle I'm going through or being down on my luck.
When I read this I immediately felt judged, critiqued, wrongly accused and honestly like some child being lectured for 'whining' as he says. This man doesn't know me, my situation or my life amd he completely missed the point of what I was trying to say in my debil post. I am not ungrateful nor do I expect to be handed money for nothing. I'm a hard worker and am doing my best to succeed in this life. His response upset me greatly and really hurt my feelings but I don't want to give him the satisfaction of knowing that.
Can you daily ladies please read his message to me and give me some suggestions on how to respond? At this point I don't even care to have him in my life at all. Not that he really is, but I definitely won't be handing over my child to him ever again. I plan on just ignoring him when we do happen to cross paths.
I will post his message in the comments. Thank you!
ETA: I am attending school part time while being the primary caretaker of my 10 month old while also working a part time job. My boyfriend also works full time.
