I have another post on here explaining everything going on with BSC MIL and the community gave me the strength to sit down with DH and explain how I felt about her and that I think she either needs a long TO or completely CO. He agreed and was up for sitting down and explaining this all to her. Suddenly after agreeing to all that he was a complete different person the next two days. It's like he changed his mind over night. All of a sudden he's answering her calls and all "I love you mom so much" and she's back to texting him 24/7. I think he's been talking to her more than me whose been sitting at home with LO becoming stir crazy (aside from having a wonderful little bundle of joy who makes my day better). Now DH tells me that he's having MIL and SFIL over next Wednesday (his first day off with LO and I after working nine days straight all day long) and that they want to stay for lunch. Again we live with my mother and he never consulted my mother or I about this and it's her home that were in but he expects lunch to be made by me. The problem is my mother isn't on good terms with MIL and so she is going to avoid the situation and stay at work that day which upsets me. The only thing I can think of is that they gave him money or bribed him or guilted him in some way to be on good terms again. Or maybe he's falling back into the trap due to the mental hold his mother has on him but it seems like we took a huge step forward only for him to get shoved back. And lately he's been distant and quiet and when I ask he simply tells me he's absolutely fine and that he loves and appreciates everything I do for him and our LO and that he's just tired. My question is, how do I talk to him when no matter what I say he avoids it and changes he subject? How do I handle their visit when I refuse to allow her to hold my son? And is there any way for this to not be a complete blow out in my mothers home?
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