Excuse any grammatical errors as in holding my one month old baby girl with a feeding. I need to get things out and lok for advice on what to do.
I had my daughter in September. I live in ith DH on one side of the country, and my parents on another side. Our life is separated by distance of course, and time difference. The last time I ever had a long visit with my family www in 2014.
It's just me and my brother our parents have. I'm the oldest. He doesn't want kids, so it's all on me. I must admit, when I got pregnant I was nervous. The first person I called to tell the news was my mother, not my DH. I talked with her for a whole hour before calling him to tell him he was going to be a daddy. Iwas a nervous blob as I didn't know what to expect for nine months. My mom use to tell me a marriage is hard work, and having kids changes a marriage. Whenever I had a daily peoblem, I texted or called me mom. When I found out the gender of my baby, DH was with me. The second person to know was my mom then my mil.
I'm a selfie person so every change in my bump or each new week, I took a selfie and sent it to my mom. We had talks which made me feel at ease. As my pregnancy progressed, I learned new things but my nervous was still there. On one of our long talks I told my mom I needed her with me during my final weeks of pregnancy. I was going to be alone too because DH travels for work. I told him what I wanted and he was ok with it because his travels were increasing, and he knew I was nervous.
We arranged for my mom to come when I was seven months pregnant, and she would be leaving in mid January of 2017.
As I said above, I shared my selfies with her. She would upload them to her facebook to show her friends and family. She'll call me mama to be, and my baby, her princess or angel. She ont say her princess or her angel, she said my princess or my angel.
When she came here, we did things together. She became like me being a picture taker and would tale pics of me and my bump to upload on her facebook with the above references. It happened all the way to September. Whwn my daughter was born, me and DH didnt post about her birth so fast. My mom took a photo of her and uploaded it saying my daughters name which we wanted private, how much she weighed, and what day she arrived. She called her my angel. I was a little hurt she overstepped. I let it slide. Ever post she shares is of her holding my daughter and saying my angel, my princess.
Last week I was fine to walk about so decided to go around town with my mom and my baby. She hogged the stroller, dressed my daughter up how she wanted, and when people walked up to the stroller, she acted like I wasn't there.
My DH spends his home time trying to be daddy doing his role. If he's on his laptop in our room doing work, he'll have our DD near him so to do what needs doing. If she cries, my mom goes for her instead of giving him space to be a daddy. He was changing her diaper once and my mom stood by him telling him he was doing it all wrong. It pissed him off. At night when he and I ate up around 1 and 2 with her trying to get her settled, my mom wakes up and tries taking her from me saying she knows what to do. I'll tell her go back to bed as we have it under control.
I'm 32, and she's acting like I'm 16. In the mall, we were buying winter wear. I usually shop for me and DH together so our clothes ate ready. In a store she walked off with the stroller into a baby store to get baby clothes. I told her she was making things hard for me because she shouldn't walk off like she did. I was panicked. Our little argument led her to walk off with the stroller and my baby in it, and told me she was going to be in the food court waiting for me to finish shopping for a grown man. I cried there. I was numb and shocked I just stood crying as she went to the food court with my daughter. The whole day we argued. What got me hurt was when she told me I shouldn't be cooking for DH or putting his food in his plate.
The day fer I spent my time in bed with my daughter in my room. My mom knew I was angry so left and went for a walk by herself. I go back to work soon, and she wants us keep DD home with her until she leaves in mid January. I don't know if I can.
Is this salvageable ?
I had my daughter in September. I live in ith DH on one side of the country, and my parents on another side. Our life is separated by distance of course, and time difference. The last time I ever had a long visit with my family www in 2014.
It's just me and my brother our parents have. I'm the oldest. He doesn't want kids, so it's all on me. I must admit, when I got pregnant I was nervous. The first person I called to tell the news was my mother, not my DH. I talked with her for a whole hour before calling him to tell him he was going to be a daddy. Iwas a nervous blob as I didn't know what to expect for nine months. My mom use to tell me a marriage is hard work, and having kids changes a marriage. Whenever I had a daily peoblem, I texted or called me mom. When I found out the gender of my baby, DH was with me. The second person to know was my mom then my mil.
I'm a selfie person so every change in my bump or each new week, I took a selfie and sent it to my mom. We had talks which made me feel at ease. As my pregnancy progressed, I learned new things but my nervous was still there. On one of our long talks I told my mom I needed her with me during my final weeks of pregnancy. I was going to be alone too because DH travels for work. I told him what I wanted and he was ok with it because his travels were increasing, and he knew I was nervous.
We arranged for my mom to come when I was seven months pregnant, and she would be leaving in mid January of 2017.
As I said above, I shared my selfies with her. She would upload them to her facebook to show her friends and family. She'll call me mama to be, and my baby, her princess or angel. She ont say her princess or her angel, she said my princess or my angel.
When she came here, we did things together. She became like me being a picture taker and would tale pics of me and my bump to upload on her facebook with the above references. It happened all the way to September. Whwn my daughter was born, me and DH didnt post about her birth so fast. My mom took a photo of her and uploaded it saying my daughters name which we wanted private, how much she weighed, and what day she arrived. She called her my angel. I was a little hurt she overstepped. I let it slide. Ever post she shares is of her holding my daughter and saying my angel, my princess.
Last week I was fine to walk about so decided to go around town with my mom and my baby. She hogged the stroller, dressed my daughter up how she wanted, and when people walked up to the stroller, she acted like I wasn't there.
My DH spends his home time trying to be daddy doing his role. If he's on his laptop in our room doing work, he'll have our DD near him so to do what needs doing. If she cries, my mom goes for her instead of giving him space to be a daddy. He was changing her diaper once and my mom stood by him telling him he was doing it all wrong. It pissed him off. At night when he and I ate up around 1 and 2 with her trying to get her settled, my mom wakes up and tries taking her from me saying she knows what to do. I'll tell her go back to bed as we have it under control.
I'm 32, and she's acting like I'm 16. In the mall, we were buying winter wear. I usually shop for me and DH together so our clothes ate ready. In a store she walked off with the stroller into a baby store to get baby clothes. I told her she was making things hard for me because she shouldn't walk off like she did. I was panicked. Our little argument led her to walk off with the stroller and my baby in it, and told me she was going to be in the food court waiting for me to finish shopping for a grown man. I cried there. I was numb and shocked I just stood crying as she went to the food court with my daughter. The whole day we argued. What got me hurt was when she told me I shouldn't be cooking for DH or putting his food in his plate.
The day fer I spent my time in bed with my daughter in my room. My mom knew I was angry so left and went for a walk by herself. I go back to work soon, and she wants us keep DD home with her until she leaves in mid January. I don't know if I can.
Is this salvageable ?
