My husband is from Australia (yes, his accent is AMAZING ![;)]( ";)")
lol) and we are expecting twin girls in December. His mom and 2 brothers wants to come here when the babies are born for 3 or 4 weeks. We live in a very small 2 bedroom apartment. I know that she will expect to stay with us when she comes. They are my first babies and so I will be learning how to breastfeed and figuring out this newborn phase for the first time. I feel like trying to breastfeeding with his little brothers around all the time will be awkward as if trying to feed 2 babies isn't a challenge enough. However, staying at a hotel is going to be expensive and she probably won't be able to afford to spend at least $6000 on airplane tickets plus a rental car plus hotel and food. These are her first grandchildren and I know she wants to be here but I just don't see a way to make it work. If I tell her that I don't think it will be work unless she can stay at a hotel she will make me out to be the bad guy but I don't think I'm being unreasonable to want them to stay in a hotel while we adjust to our new life. If she stays with us I know she'll be overbearing and controlling about EVERYTHING bc thats just how she is. Am I horrible for not wanting her and the boys staying with us? We are planning on flying to Australia when the girls are around 8 or 10 weeks old and I don't think waiting till we fly there is completely unreasonable. I guess I'm just really not sure what to do.
Some background info also:
His mom is super controlling and overbearing . She will manipulate anyone and everyone to get what she wants-even my husband admits to this and she does it from the other side of the world - she's that good at it. She gonna have a tantrum that she'll be missing out and it will become all our fault somehow and cause issues.*sigh* I'm just not sure what to do
lol) and we are expecting twin girls in December. His mom and 2 brothers wants to come here when the babies are born for 3 or 4 weeks. We live in a very small 2 bedroom apartment. I know that she will expect to stay with us when she comes. They are my first babies and so I will be learning how to breastfeed and figuring out this newborn phase for the first time. I feel like trying to breastfeeding with his little brothers around all the time will be awkward as if trying to feed 2 babies isn't a challenge enough. However, staying at a hotel is going to be expensive and she probably won't be able to afford to spend at least $6000 on airplane tickets plus a rental car plus hotel and food. These are her first grandchildren and I know she wants to be here but I just don't see a way to make it work. If I tell her that I don't think it will be work unless she can stay at a hotel she will make me out to be the bad guy but I don't think I'm being unreasonable to want them to stay in a hotel while we adjust to our new life. If she stays with us I know she'll be overbearing and controlling about EVERYTHING bc thats just how she is. Am I horrible for not wanting her and the boys staying with us? We are planning on flying to Australia when the girls are around 8 or 10 weeks old and I don't think waiting till we fly there is completely unreasonable. I guess I'm just really not sure what to do.Some background info also:
His mom is super controlling and overbearing . She will manipulate anyone and everyone to get what she wants-even my husband admits to this and she does it from the other side of the world - she's that good at it. She gonna have a tantrum that she'll be missing out and it will become all our fault somehow and cause issues.*sigh* I'm just not sure what to do
