Hi all
I hope you don't mind a non in-law question. I thought you could help since the issue is similar to one we see with in-laws. If it's not appropriate, I will delete.
I need help shutting down another mom who I see-and will continue to see-very frequently due to our kids' friendships and
activities. She is probably my BEC, but I try
to be somewhat polite since I see her all
the time (think several kids of similar ages,
same activities, etc several times a week).
We have always sat together at some of
these activities, though I'm regretting that
now.
She's seemingly obsessed with holding my one-year-old, and he's no longer at the stage where I can easily wear him. He's
also at the stage where if someone does the clap-clap-hands out (yes, she does), he
puts his hands up to be picked up. I didn't initially mind her holding him, but she's
overstepping, and frequently tries to not
only hold him, but wants to take him with
her to another area at the sports complex. I
have shut this down every time, but she
continues to ask (as in asks the baby "Want
to come with me?" with her hands out
every.single.time. we see her).
At times, I'll say no to holding, and I'll turn around and she's holding her hands out to him, asking HIM if he wants to come up. Another time, she had him w/permission, but I turned around and she had walked away and she and her husband were standing twenty feet away cooing over him. It's weird and while I have no concerns about his safety, I do think he may be part of some kind of fantasy for her. I really
wonder if she wants to be away from me so she can pretend he's hers (OMG that sounds twisted).
So most recently, I stupidly let her hold him and she said "Well he wants you when he
sees you, so I'll just go over here". And she
walked away. I was busy helping my other
dc do couldn't get him immediately. I went
and got him when I could, but obviously I need to address with a shinier spine.
My issue is that I do have to continue to
see her, and I don't want to embarrass my kids or be the crazy mom on the sidelines.
And yet, I think she's kind of counting on me not making a scene, as well as the not-
close-friends-but-not-strangers nature of our relationship.
Any help appreciated. Thanks!
I hope you don't mind a non in-law question. I thought you could help since the issue is similar to one we see with in-laws. If it's not appropriate, I will delete.
I need help shutting down another mom who I see-and will continue to see-very frequently due to our kids' friendships and
activities. She is probably my BEC, but I try
to be somewhat polite since I see her all
the time (think several kids of similar ages,
same activities, etc several times a week).
We have always sat together at some of
these activities, though I'm regretting that
now.
She's seemingly obsessed with holding my one-year-old, and he's no longer at the stage where I can easily wear him. He's
also at the stage where if someone does the clap-clap-hands out (yes, she does), he
puts his hands up to be picked up. I didn't initially mind her holding him, but she's
overstepping, and frequently tries to not
only hold him, but wants to take him with
her to another area at the sports complex. I
have shut this down every time, but she
continues to ask (as in asks the baby "Want
to come with me?" with her hands out
every.single.time. we see her).
At times, I'll say no to holding, and I'll turn around and she's holding her hands out to him, asking HIM if he wants to come up. Another time, she had him w/permission, but I turned around and she had walked away and she and her husband were standing twenty feet away cooing over him. It's weird and while I have no concerns about his safety, I do think he may be part of some kind of fantasy for her. I really
wonder if she wants to be away from me so she can pretend he's hers (OMG that sounds twisted).
So most recently, I stupidly let her hold him and she said "Well he wants you when he
sees you, so I'll just go over here". And she
walked away. I was busy helping my other
dc do couldn't get him immediately. I went
and got him when I could, but obviously I need to address with a shinier spine.
My issue is that I do have to continue to
see her, and I don't want to embarrass my kids or be the crazy mom on the sidelines.
And yet, I think she's kind of counting on me not making a scene, as well as the not-
close-friends-but-not-strangers nature of our relationship.
Any help appreciated. Thanks!
