BG: I have osteogenesis imperfecta it's a brittle bone disease with various types but even the characteristics within a type vary. I have type 1 the most mild, it's a genetic disease passed down from my grandpa to my dad to my aunt to my brother to me & now my son. I've broken 24 bones my brother (also with type 1) only broke 3 but he dislocated his joints more. It's a very personal disease that my family has struggled through but with my experience I know how to best care for my son.
On Saturday husband & I left our son (7 weeks old) with his mom & sis & they posted a pic of DSD who's 9 holding DS in a position that neither me or DH or my family was comfortable with. My stomach dropped when i saw the pic.
Our pediatrician even said the #1 rule is not to let children hold him because they don't know how rough they can be. DS could've squirmed & DSD could've grabbed him too tight cracking his rib. He's fragile.
So me & DH decided to let MIL & SIL know our stand. "No kids can hold our son unless we are there. Even his sister." No one was angry we just want to educate them on the disease & avoid any accidents. And lastly please remove the pic of my son that you posted, it made me & my family that uncomfortable let's forget it happened & move on.
MIL & SIL blew up.
MIL stayed here for a minute, didn't even listen to us. All we tried to do was explain our rule for our son for future reference. She went on the defense started raising her voice. I tried to explain that I'd like to get the family together so we can educate everyone on the disease especially DSD. MIL said "she's read about it" reading about it & hearing from my family who has lived it is completely different.
After she slammed the door she went home & complained & I get a text from SIL saying that we (DH & I) "have a lot of nerve" & to "grow the fuck up." I thought in order to grow up you have to have done something childish so me bringing up concerns over my son's disease is childish?
I'm completely distraught over this situation. I've been nothing but nice to my in laws & the one time I stand up for myself they take it to a personal level. We in no way attacked them or said they were bad people we just tried to inform them.
DH isn't surprised his family acted like this. It's only to get worse as he gets older & I have to explain no he can't play sports, no he can't have a skateboard, no he can't go down slides unsupervised. They're going to take it all personal. I don't know what to do I feel sick to my stomach that this is happening.
On Saturday husband & I left our son (7 weeks old) with his mom & sis & they posted a pic of DSD who's 9 holding DS in a position that neither me or DH or my family was comfortable with. My stomach dropped when i saw the pic.
Our pediatrician even said the #1 rule is not to let children hold him because they don't know how rough they can be. DS could've squirmed & DSD could've grabbed him too tight cracking his rib. He's fragile.
So me & DH decided to let MIL & SIL know our stand. "No kids can hold our son unless we are there. Even his sister." No one was angry we just want to educate them on the disease & avoid any accidents. And lastly please remove the pic of my son that you posted, it made me & my family that uncomfortable let's forget it happened & move on.
MIL & SIL blew up.
MIL stayed here for a minute, didn't even listen to us. All we tried to do was explain our rule for our son for future reference. She went on the defense started raising her voice. I tried to explain that I'd like to get the family together so we can educate everyone on the disease especially DSD. MIL said "she's read about it" reading about it & hearing from my family who has lived it is completely different.
After she slammed the door she went home & complained & I get a text from SIL saying that we (DH & I) "have a lot of nerve" & to "grow the fuck up." I thought in order to grow up you have to have done something childish so me bringing up concerns over my son's disease is childish?
I'm completely distraught over this situation. I've been nothing but nice to my in laws & the one time I stand up for myself they take it to a personal level. We in no way attacked them or said they were bad people we just tried to inform them.
DH isn't surprised his family acted like this. It's only to get worse as he gets older & I have to explain no he can't play sports, no he can't have a skateboard, no he can't go down slides unsupervised. They're going to take it all personal. I don't know what to do I feel sick to my stomach that this is happening.
