So my SO came to me and told me that in April when we visit his parents for a week we will be leaving our (then) 16 month old son with his parents for an extra week long stay as we drive 10 hours home. They would then bring him back at the end of that week.
Him and I weren't together very long before we got pregnant but to us we were extremely excited about our bundle of joy. I found out 1 week before we went to visit his parents for the first time. The time we were there his father didn't look/speak to me and his mother would (even to this day) would ignore me to my face. Then if I needed alone time, to them it meant I had an attitude problem.
Then when my son was born my MIL came and stayed with us for 2 weeks. She flat out told us that she would not help cook, clean, or change the diapers. She sat on her but infront of the tv the whole time and hoarded my 2 week old son from me. At this time I was working hard to breast feed and to get back on track since I was told to supplement with formula while my son was in the hospital for jaundice for 3 days. While she was there she would stick a bottle in his mouth if he cried. Kept him asleep all day so he would be awake all night because she wanted to take him at night too since she's an insomniac. I got not sleep that whole time she was with us. Then I had multiple melt downs because I could hardly hold my son.
When I did get the chance to breast feed I would take my son up to my room and keep him for a few hours. When my SO came home while I was up in my room she would tell him that I'm hiding out and that I had an attitude problem with her.
When my SO took her to the train station to leave she told him that our son looks nothing like him and that he needs to get a paternity test done.
His parents refuse to get to know me. I am civil with them for the sake of my family and that it is my SO parents and that he is really close to his mom. (They talk daily)
When we visited them last April his dad pretty much told us we didn't know what we were doing when it came to taking care of our son. (I have a 6yo daughter that I was a single mother to since day 1)
My inlaws still baby my SO still. They are still trying to run his life.
I've talked to my mom on how I should handle them and that I don't want my son there without me for a week. She told me that my SO has to deal with them because if I do it'll just make everything worse.
The problem is that my SO doesn't see why it's s big deal for his parents to take our son for so long. He also didn't know hiw his parents had been treating me till we talked about it last week. He hadn't brought it up sense.
His parents will be visiting and staying with us in a few weeks for my sons bday. I don't feel comfortable enough to talk to them about this without my mom/dad to back me up because Im not one to stand up for myself. I hate confrontation.
How can I get them to realize that my son is too young to be away from us without sounding like a b-word? I don't want to start more problems between us but I also don't want to be walked on either...
Him and I weren't together very long before we got pregnant but to us we were extremely excited about our bundle of joy. I found out 1 week before we went to visit his parents for the first time. The time we were there his father didn't look/speak to me and his mother would (even to this day) would ignore me to my face. Then if I needed alone time, to them it meant I had an attitude problem.
Then when my son was born my MIL came and stayed with us for 2 weeks. She flat out told us that she would not help cook, clean, or change the diapers. She sat on her but infront of the tv the whole time and hoarded my 2 week old son from me. At this time I was working hard to breast feed and to get back on track since I was told to supplement with formula while my son was in the hospital for jaundice for 3 days. While she was there she would stick a bottle in his mouth if he cried. Kept him asleep all day so he would be awake all night because she wanted to take him at night too since she's an insomniac. I got not sleep that whole time she was with us. Then I had multiple melt downs because I could hardly hold my son.
When I did get the chance to breast feed I would take my son up to my room and keep him for a few hours. When my SO came home while I was up in my room she would tell him that I'm hiding out and that I had an attitude problem with her.
When my SO took her to the train station to leave she told him that our son looks nothing like him and that he needs to get a paternity test done.
His parents refuse to get to know me. I am civil with them for the sake of my family and that it is my SO parents and that he is really close to his mom. (They talk daily)
When we visited them last April his dad pretty much told us we didn't know what we were doing when it came to taking care of our son. (I have a 6yo daughter that I was a single mother to since day 1)
My inlaws still baby my SO still. They are still trying to run his life.
I've talked to my mom on how I should handle them and that I don't want my son there without me for a week. She told me that my SO has to deal with them because if I do it'll just make everything worse.
The problem is that my SO doesn't see why it's s big deal for his parents to take our son for so long. He also didn't know hiw his parents had been treating me till we talked about it last week. He hadn't brought it up sense.
His parents will be visiting and staying with us in a few weeks for my sons bday. I don't feel comfortable enough to talk to them about this without my mom/dad to back me up because Im not one to stand up for myself. I hate confrontation.
How can I get them to realize that my son is too young to be away from us without sounding like a b-word? I don't want to start more problems between us but I also don't want to be walked on either...