I have one other post here but it only has a glimpse of BG. I'm on my phone and can't link it, sorry. This might be a novel and I'm sorry about that.
H and I have been married for 8 years, have two children 5 years old and a 4 month old. We moved from home state back in 2012 and just moved back to home state 6 months ago. Before we moved MIL had word vomit at our 2 year old (at the time) birthday. After this I CO from me and oldest child which was easy to do as we moved 1200+ miles away. I haven't seen MIL since the party in 2012 and we didn't say goodbye to her before we left.
H has seen her two times since then when we came back to visit. Each time MIL called me a liar and told him I set her up. She denied ever saying anything and has also called H her own son a liar when he has brought up things she has said to him. She thinks and feels that she should be able to say whatever and get away with it.
When we moved it was late summer, as the holidays approached she called H demanding to know our travel plans to come and celebrate with her. He then informed her we wouldn't be coming to home state for Thanksgiving or Christmas (this was in 2012). She freaked out, tried calling me which I BH into oblivion and then she called my Mother. Said all kinds of insulting gems about me and told my Mother off when my Mom flat out told her not to involve her and we are adults and can spend or not spend our holidays where we choose. After this I sent MIL a text not to ever call my Mother again and she crossed a boundary. MIL told me she'd call whomever she wants and I can deal with it.
MIL wasn't told about the birth of our second child, doesn't know where we live and has no idea what is going on in our lives. I know that someone told her about our second child and that I gave birth in home state, we have a leak somewhere and we will be shutting down our social media.
So yesterday we had just left my parents house and 20mins after we left MIL showed up. She had gifts for 'her grandchildren' and demanded to see ME. That I was the reason for her son not talking to her and I am keeping her grandchildren away from her. My Mother was in such shock to see her, Mom kept telling her to call her son, this is really between you and your son and I'm not accepting any gifts from you, I'm not telling you where they are and no I do not want to hear your recordings or read a letter. (It seems MIL has a recorded convo and the email I sent her. I DID have it out with her in 2014 at a weak moment. This was a FAIL and I know it and feel appropriately stupid for it.) MIL has this letter (email) in her vehicle and is showing it to God knows who and for what purpose we aren't clear on. Anyways, she started getting hysterical and my Dad came to the door and ended it by saying calmly, We're done here and slamming the door directly in her face. (Go Dad!!)
My question to DWIL is where the heck do we go from here? How do we handle this?!? I cannot have her harassing my parents. Our home state is very GPR unfriendly so I'm not worried about that. We have our bases covered and yes I have talked with a family attorney on this topic but it was only on this topic. I do not want to spend money on this. I won't hair flip and will take my lashing with BGP on but with the two kids it might take me awhile to get back.
H and I have been married for 8 years, have two children 5 years old and a 4 month old. We moved from home state back in 2012 and just moved back to home state 6 months ago. Before we moved MIL had word vomit at our 2 year old (at the time) birthday. After this I CO from me and oldest child which was easy to do as we moved 1200+ miles away. I haven't seen MIL since the party in 2012 and we didn't say goodbye to her before we left.
H has seen her two times since then when we came back to visit. Each time MIL called me a liar and told him I set her up. She denied ever saying anything and has also called H her own son a liar when he has brought up things she has said to him. She thinks and feels that she should be able to say whatever and get away with it.
When we moved it was late summer, as the holidays approached she called H demanding to know our travel plans to come and celebrate with her. He then informed her we wouldn't be coming to home state for Thanksgiving or Christmas (this was in 2012). She freaked out, tried calling me which I BH into oblivion and then she called my Mother. Said all kinds of insulting gems about me and told my Mother off when my Mom flat out told her not to involve her and we are adults and can spend or not spend our holidays where we choose. After this I sent MIL a text not to ever call my Mother again and she crossed a boundary. MIL told me she'd call whomever she wants and I can deal with it.
MIL wasn't told about the birth of our second child, doesn't know where we live and has no idea what is going on in our lives. I know that someone told her about our second child and that I gave birth in home state, we have a leak somewhere and we will be shutting down our social media.
So yesterday we had just left my parents house and 20mins after we left MIL showed up. She had gifts for 'her grandchildren' and demanded to see ME. That I was the reason for her son not talking to her and I am keeping her grandchildren away from her. My Mother was in such shock to see her, Mom kept telling her to call her son, this is really between you and your son and I'm not accepting any gifts from you, I'm not telling you where they are and no I do not want to hear your recordings or read a letter. (It seems MIL has a recorded convo and the email I sent her. I DID have it out with her in 2014 at a weak moment. This was a FAIL and I know it and feel appropriately stupid for it.) MIL has this letter (email) in her vehicle and is showing it to God knows who and for what purpose we aren't clear on. Anyways, she started getting hysterical and my Dad came to the door and ended it by saying calmly, We're done here and slamming the door directly in her face. (Go Dad!!)
My question to DWIL is where the heck do we go from here? How do we handle this?!? I cannot have her harassing my parents. Our home state is very GPR unfriendly so I'm not worried about that. We have our bases covered and yes I have talked with a family attorney on this topic but it was only on this topic. I do not want to spend money on this. I won't hair flip and will take my lashing with BGP on but with the two kids it might take me awhile to get back.