My daughter is 3 and disabled. Her dad (my ex) sees her every month but doesn't really do much for her so I've been single momming it and it's been an adventure.
My mom was verbally abusive my entire life and finally I decided my daughter and i didn't need that in our lives so I cut her off.
So after I cut her off I had 2 flying monkeys. Both are aunts. One basically demanded me to talk to her again telling me it's her right to see her grandchild (i CO and blocked on fb). The other just asked what happened and was really unicorn-y.
I used to post all the things going on with my daughter on fb trying to keep my family who is in a different state who I thought cared informed.
Then I started realizing that nobody really does care.
Nobody would call, message or even comment on my post about her asking how her surgeries went, if she was feeling better after being in the hospital, nothing.
I've been hurt over this for a while and at first I tried reaching out more. I sent Christmas cards to everyone last year and this year. I made more of an effort to interact on facebook. No Christmas cards were sent back to me, nobody interacted back much.
I even wrote on my fb about how nobody being there for me has made me stronger and posted a meme about don't care about the family that ignores you and acts like you don't matter... I know that's a little desperate sounding.
I get that people have busy lives. I gave them the benefit of the doubt that they're probably just busy .
But then 3 of my cousins got pregnant last year.
2 of them had their babies a day apart, the other is due this month.
I see posts of my cousins writing on each others walls about how their babies get to grow up together. I see pics of their baby showers.
They get this out pouring of support from all our family. Family who won't even so much as comment on a pic of my daughter will post a paragraph of support for my cousins.
And, their babies are all perfectly healthy. They won't go through a fourth of what my daughter has been through.
It just hurts. I've considered deleting my Facebook over it, that's how bad it effects me.
Am I right in these feelings or being over emotional about it? Help me level my head.
My mom was verbally abusive my entire life and finally I decided my daughter and i didn't need that in our lives so I cut her off.
So after I cut her off I had 2 flying monkeys. Both are aunts. One basically demanded me to talk to her again telling me it's her right to see her grandchild (i CO and blocked on fb). The other just asked what happened and was really unicorn-y.
I used to post all the things going on with my daughter on fb trying to keep my family who is in a different state who I thought cared informed.
Then I started realizing that nobody really does care.
Nobody would call, message or even comment on my post about her asking how her surgeries went, if she was feeling better after being in the hospital, nothing.
I've been hurt over this for a while and at first I tried reaching out more. I sent Christmas cards to everyone last year and this year. I made more of an effort to interact on facebook. No Christmas cards were sent back to me, nobody interacted back much.
I even wrote on my fb about how nobody being there for me has made me stronger and posted a meme about don't care about the family that ignores you and acts like you don't matter... I know that's a little desperate sounding.
I get that people have busy lives. I gave them the benefit of the doubt that they're probably just busy .
But then 3 of my cousins got pregnant last year.
2 of them had their babies a day apart, the other is due this month.
I see posts of my cousins writing on each others walls about how their babies get to grow up together. I see pics of their baby showers.
They get this out pouring of support from all our family. Family who won't even so much as comment on a pic of my daughter will post a paragraph of support for my cousins.
And, their babies are all perfectly healthy. They won't go through a fourth of what my daughter has been through.
It just hurts. I've considered deleting my Facebook over it, that's how bad it effects me.
Am I right in these feelings or being over emotional about it? Help me level my head.