not sure how to react

Mom says every normal grandparent loves her grandkids more than her kids. I asked her if she did, too. She said yes. She claims she was young immature when raising me, and had a tough life, but now she can give all her love to the grandkids. We had strained relationship throughout life, but I can't think of a reason why. She says her family raised her without labeling "love", and she never told me she loved me. She also said I wasn't cute and needed makeup, sexy dresses, diets etc. we are past all that crap. Especially now that I have kids, I forgave and we moved on.


Now, She wants to babysit my kids while I work full time, so we pay her. I told her I'm good staying home with kids for now. She's upset. She also gets really upset whenever I can't skype her to show the kids. I have to do it every day. I feel like there is boundary stomping but also feel sorry for her, and care for her. However, this comment of hers about her love of my kids over her love of me ticked a nerve in me and reminded the strains of the past. I'm confused as to how to react to this, if at all...


P.s.: please don't be too hard on my mom, Dwil. I know she cares for me and she has issues showing it. I also know when she's gone, part of me will be gone with her, so I feel bad badmouthing her. I just want to woman up and be kind at the same time.