Mil and sil starting to become my BECs

I has my lo on the 16th so she is a week old. Everything started off fine until I developed mild paralysis in my legs causing me to be readmitted to the hospital. My dh and baby have been with me the entire time. Mil decided to take it up posted herself and has been staying in the already cramped room with us. She didn't ask me or even talked to me about staying here.


My dh of course took it in stride and has been perfectly fine with his mom and now his sister imposing on us in the hospital. His excuse is "we need the help". I don't see it that way at all and I feel that they should wait until I actually say I need help with my lo before they just assume I do. I'm not completely immobile and plus she has her father here also.


I just see it as him taking a free pass and letting sil and mil coparent so he can sleep. They are driving me crazy! Im a ftm and everything I do I get criticized for it by them. I have told dh that if I wanted the help I would have asked for it and that I feel like I'm being stepped on when it comes to my lo. I use to love my mil and sil and now I look at them and I just want to scream. I know that this is a huge duh problem and he is not helping with this at all but I feel stuck.


I have been trying to put my foot down with them when it comes to my lo but then my duh has an attitude because I'm not willingly accepting the help that they have so "lovingly" offered me.


Please help, duh and I are in counseling but not for an in law problems. I have never had any problem with the in laws until now.


If you need more details on what's going on don't hesitate to ask.