So at Christmas my MIL cornered me and asked me if she could come and "help" for two days after DS is born. I said, "Maybe, I'll think about it. I guess so." Well that ment yes to her. So now she is coming for the two days after my son is born. I get no say in this. We talked to our cousellor about this and she gave me tips on how to deal with it. And said have someone else come over for the two days after your MIL is supposed to come so MIL has to leave. I like this idea and my Grandmother, whom I am very close with and who was a nurse will be asked to come for the two days post-MIL.
My MIL is a boundry stomper. She insists that I parent HER grandchild HER way. FIL is no better but luckly he will not be here during my Postpartum time. I need advice on how to shut her down. And should I give her a list of things to help with while she is here? Like make freezer meals, help with laundry, and help clean the kitchen etc.?
MIL and FIL live 1hr 30 min away. And if she needs to go home because of how she is acting she can. My cousin lives less than five minutes away so if I need any help dealing with MIL she can come over. DH can't be there at home while MIL is there due to his school schedule. He leaves for school at 5:30 am and doesn't come home til around 8pm or 9pm.
DH and I have been fighting over this for weeks. And the counsellor's advice really helped. I still am not a fan of MIL coming over, but it will only be for two days and then I won't have to see her until Easter.
Your advice would be greatly appreciated.
