This is my first post, I've read the sticky, but if I accidentally slip up and make a violation, PLEASE let me know and I will fix it asap!!
BG: I am on disability for general anxiety, bipolar depression, major chronic depression, borderline personality disorder, and PTSD. I can't can give background on these disorders if needed, but I don't think it's relevant. I was placed on disability three years ago, and have been working really hard to move on and get better so that I can eventually start working again. I am currently pregnant and due at the end of April.
Now onto my current issue.... A few days ago I made a couple of posts on the debil, referring to my half sister. The first post was just saying that in my opinion, I don't think it's okay for a parent to talk badly about the other parent to their child, or around them to wear they can hear it. My sister has done this to my niece and nephew their whole lives and I just don't like it. I didn't post any names or anything. Then my second post was saying that when someone continues to make the same mistakes repeatedly, that it's no longer considered a mistake and that I'm done feeling sorry for "you", but again I didn't post any name. It wouldn't have mattered if I did posted names though, because she doesn't have a Facebook.
Well my FSIL comments on the first post and gets extremely crappy with me, saying that I'm not a parent yet and that I don't know what it's like. Then she says that she made a post about her children's father that same day and that she doesn't believe in coincidences. I literally had NO idea what she was talking about. I didn't see her post, so I went to her page. What she was talking about was a comment she had made on one of her posts, but it had happened five hours before hand. Basically I just laughed at her and explained that her children dont even have a Facebook page to have even seen what she said, so I obviously wasn't talking about her. She continued to accuse me of talking about her, but I just laughed and brushed it off. I think she thought both of my posts were about her, though. If the shoe fits, right? But my laughing at her REALLY pissed her off.
The next day, I assume everything has blown over. I'm still a little annoyed that she had been blowing up at me, but whatever, right? Well I check the debil, and she made a post about me. She didn't name my name but it was very obvious that she was talking about me! This is what she posts:
"God how I wish I could be 21 laid up at home alllllll day just sitting on my ass rotting away while I collect welfare and ssi for anxiety?? Then hey, how about I get pregnant on top of that... Cause that will cure my 'anxiety' while my man sleeps with everyone but me...but hey...that's none of my business 😘😘 I can be cool as a cumcumber.. You wanna get immature? I can swing that bat too bitch😂🙌🏻🙌🏻"
Just to defend myself to you all, I'm 22, I don't collect welfare or ssi, and the state sent me to their own psychiatrist to get my diagnosis, my DF works all the time, and when he doesn't work he's with me. I see his paychecks, I know how many hours he works. So obviously she doesn't know what she's talking about, but I know she's talking about me. So my DF texts her and tells her that it's bullshit that she would post my business on the debil and make me look like a fool. Neither of us made a status about her, nor did we post any of her business (trust me, there's a LOT that we could have posted). He told her that unless she apologizes to both of us, but especially me, that she wouldn't be welcome to be at the hospital when our son is born. We haven't heard from her since, and we aren't pushing anything by contacting her or anything. Are we handling this situation correctly?
Then today we were over at my FPILs house. As we were leaving, FFIL followed us outside and told us that we need to just drop the issue with FSIL, that it's not okay for us to be using our baby as "leverage" and that if we see her there, we need to allow her to be there. I pipe up (which was very hard for me) and say that I'm sorry, but that's not acceptable. It will not only be the birth of our son, but it's also MY medical procedure, and that unless she apologizes to me, I don't want her there. He rolls his eyes and walks back inside.
Did I go too far saying that to my FFIL? Are we in the right to not want her there without an apology? Are we handling both situations (her posting about us, and him telling us to drop it) correctly? Are we just overreacting? Should we have done or should we do something differently? TIA Ladies! (Btw, it's like 3:30 in the morning, so if I stop replying, I'm not hair flipping! It just means I fell asleep!)
BG: I am on disability for general anxiety, bipolar depression, major chronic depression, borderline personality disorder, and PTSD. I can't can give background on these disorders if needed, but I don't think it's relevant. I was placed on disability three years ago, and have been working really hard to move on and get better so that I can eventually start working again. I am currently pregnant and due at the end of April.
Now onto my current issue.... A few days ago I made a couple of posts on the debil, referring to my half sister. The first post was just saying that in my opinion, I don't think it's okay for a parent to talk badly about the other parent to their child, or around them to wear they can hear it. My sister has done this to my niece and nephew their whole lives and I just don't like it. I didn't post any names or anything. Then my second post was saying that when someone continues to make the same mistakes repeatedly, that it's no longer considered a mistake and that I'm done feeling sorry for "you", but again I didn't post any name. It wouldn't have mattered if I did posted names though, because she doesn't have a Facebook.
Well my FSIL comments on the first post and gets extremely crappy with me, saying that I'm not a parent yet and that I don't know what it's like. Then she says that she made a post about her children's father that same day and that she doesn't believe in coincidences. I literally had NO idea what she was talking about. I didn't see her post, so I went to her page. What she was talking about was a comment she had made on one of her posts, but it had happened five hours before hand. Basically I just laughed at her and explained that her children dont even have a Facebook page to have even seen what she said, so I obviously wasn't talking about her. She continued to accuse me of talking about her, but I just laughed and brushed it off. I think she thought both of my posts were about her, though. If the shoe fits, right? But my laughing at her REALLY pissed her off.
The next day, I assume everything has blown over. I'm still a little annoyed that she had been blowing up at me, but whatever, right? Well I check the debil, and she made a post about me. She didn't name my name but it was very obvious that she was talking about me! This is what she posts:
"God how I wish I could be 21 laid up at home alllllll day just sitting on my ass rotting away while I collect welfare and ssi for anxiety?? Then hey, how about I get pregnant on top of that... Cause that will cure my 'anxiety' while my man sleeps with everyone but me...but hey...that's none of my business 😘😘 I can be cool as a cumcumber.. You wanna get immature? I can swing that bat too bitch😂🙌🏻🙌🏻"
Just to defend myself to you all, I'm 22, I don't collect welfare or ssi, and the state sent me to their own psychiatrist to get my diagnosis, my DF works all the time, and when he doesn't work he's with me. I see his paychecks, I know how many hours he works. So obviously she doesn't know what she's talking about, but I know she's talking about me. So my DF texts her and tells her that it's bullshit that she would post my business on the debil and make me look like a fool. Neither of us made a status about her, nor did we post any of her business (trust me, there's a LOT that we could have posted). He told her that unless she apologizes to both of us, but especially me, that she wouldn't be welcome to be at the hospital when our son is born. We haven't heard from her since, and we aren't pushing anything by contacting her or anything. Are we handling this situation correctly?
Then today we were over at my FPILs house. As we were leaving, FFIL followed us outside and told us that we need to just drop the issue with FSIL, that it's not okay for us to be using our baby as "leverage" and that if we see her there, we need to allow her to be there. I pipe up (which was very hard for me) and say that I'm sorry, but that's not acceptable. It will not only be the birth of our son, but it's also MY medical procedure, and that unless she apologizes to me, I don't want her there. He rolls his eyes and walks back inside.
Did I go too far saying that to my FFIL? Are we in the right to not want her there without an apology? Are we handling both situations (her posting about us, and him telling us to drop it) correctly? Are we just overreacting? Should we have done or should we do something differently? TIA Ladies! (Btw, it's like 3:30 in the morning, so if I stop replying, I'm not hair flipping! It just means I fell asleep!)
