So half a year ago husband bought us a new house with the MIL apartment attached ( she has bedroom, kitchen , bathroom , and living room )
She crossed all the boundaries there could be . She is constantly in our house . Always takes our dogs. She has two laundry days , but she ignores it and does it whenever she s freaking pleased to do so. She doesn't contribute financially at all . I mean she has about 800 in income and she gives us nothing . She drives one of my husband cars and every time something is wrong with it (including engine $2000) we pay for it . I am currently SAHM and I personally have no income.
I want to say f*** to everything and move out . I want to get a job and get my own apartment without my MIL . I d like my husband to live with me. I don't know how I will work and pay for childcare , cause whatever I ll get won't be enough . I don't qualify for any assistance unless I ll divorce . I don't want a divorce. And of course my husband won't want the apartment idea cause he just bought this big ass house for us and mil . Mil does not respect our boundaries no matter how much we ve been talking about it . . One time when husband and I were fighting ( those are very rare , but we re not perfect) she actually came up and tried to get involved . Wtf. Of course my husband told her to mind her own business. How the hell do I deal with this situation. What also is annoying is that she always goes to help with friends' babies , but when it comes to her own grandson she s too tired or unavailable. When she s finally does want to take the baby she s not needed. This wouldn't be so annoying if she payed at least something. It s like the least you can do is help a little. Oh I hate this situation!!!!
She crossed all the boundaries there could be . She is constantly in our house . Always takes our dogs. She has two laundry days , but she ignores it and does it whenever she s freaking pleased to do so. She doesn't contribute financially at all . I mean she has about 800 in income and she gives us nothing . She drives one of my husband cars and every time something is wrong with it (including engine $2000) we pay for it . I am currently SAHM and I personally have no income.
I want to say f*** to everything and move out . I want to get a job and get my own apartment without my MIL . I d like my husband to live with me. I don't know how I will work and pay for childcare , cause whatever I ll get won't be enough . I don't qualify for any assistance unless I ll divorce . I don't want a divorce. And of course my husband won't want the apartment idea cause he just bought this big ass house for us and mil . Mil does not respect our boundaries no matter how much we ve been talking about it . . One time when husband and I were fighting ( those are very rare , but we re not perfect) she actually came up and tried to get involved . Wtf. Of course my husband told her to mind her own business. How the hell do I deal with this situation. What also is annoying is that she always goes to help with friends' babies , but when it comes to her own grandson she s too tired or unavailable. When she s finally does want to take the baby she s not needed. This wouldn't be so annoying if she payed at least something. It s like the least you can do is help a little. Oh I hate this situation!!!!