Regular member here, using a throwaway to continue my thread as my regular screen name is very easily traced to me.
I'm the poster who had the Crazy Aunt who was very handsy with me when I was 13. I CO Crazy Aunt when I was 18 and it's been this way for over a decade. I originally posted to ask opinions on whether to bring my LO to a party my GMOO would be having as CA would be there and I took the consensus to leave him with a friend and go by myself. The party hasn't happened yet.
This brought up a lot of posters telling me that I was ridiculous for not CO grandparents after they were made aware of the abuse and chose to ignore it and I stubbornly refused to see their part in the mess and said I would still take LO to meet them.
Well. Since then, I've had a REALLY tricky pregnancy. I've been extremely high risk and nearly lost him a few times. It's been touch and go for a long time and only now am I starting to breathe as I've crossed the full-term threshold (yay!) and it looks as though he will be safe. Fingers crossed.
During this time, I've had the grandparents on a TO, although not a proper one, telling them that I've needed to keep my head down and focus on my own health instead of participating in phone calls every now and then. I live in a different state to them so lawn tantrums haven't been a problem. They haven't dealt with this very well at all and have called, emailed, FB'd - you name it. Although I've BH'd most of this, I reiterated once in a far too JADEy email my health problems without going into detail, explained once again that I wouldn't be returning calls and that would be that. They sent me a large sum of money for Christmas which I did email to thank for and I received a phone call from GFOO last week telling me he had to get a needle in the ass and "You think you've got it bad". I BH'd.
Today I received another phone message from GFOO which literally says:
"Feather,
It's time to give GMOO a call. I'd like you to do it now. It's time to cut out this bullshit."
I'm so angry. I think I knew this was coming but I just never wanted to admit it. I was so wrong and rude to PP in my other thread who could obviously see what kind of people they were and I'm sorry. I'm here now. I want to write an email to them outlining how rude and disrepectful they are for wanting me to put a phone call to GMOO ahead of my own and my LOs best interests right now...but I know this isn't really recommended here on DWIL.
Would you just block all avenue of contact and be done? Would you send back the money? Or would you write a letter saying basically they're shit people and for this reason we won't be contacting them again?
I'm happy to give more deets in a general way - if you can find my other thread it's much more detailed with what kind of people they are but I really don't want to link it here for obvious reasons. Thank you!