Ok DH and I have been together 9 years and married for 5. I've been stalking this page for a while now and it's helped me understand how important boundaries are.
Unfortunately, DH and I had NEVER set boundaries with DH. We've told them when we were mad but we allowed the behavior continue. Yikes, I know.
Well, this was the case until DD was a couple of months old.(the first two months I allowed WAY too much). I finally put my foot down when SIL tried feeding my 2 month old KFC. I told her under no circumstances was she to feed my child anything without asking. Her response: OP quit being a drama queen. My IL's fed my DS table food and he's just fine. I had to get over it." I stood my ground and said no. Then she crams her mashed potato covered finger is DD's mouth. I yell at her and tell her she is not allowed alone with my DD ever again. MIL witnessed it and all she has to say is "OP it wasn't enough to hurt her". I left.
This is just one example of their behavior. They have never had consequences before and DH and I feel it's time to start.
I don't know where to even begin. Do we have a face to face and go over boundaries? Do we do a timeout and wait for them to come to us? We're at a loss here but we are ready to stop being doormats.
Unfortunately, DH and I had NEVER set boundaries with DH. We've told them when we were mad but we allowed the behavior continue. Yikes, I know.
Well, this was the case until DD was a couple of months old.(the first two months I allowed WAY too much). I finally put my foot down when SIL tried feeding my 2 month old KFC. I told her under no circumstances was she to feed my child anything without asking. Her response: OP quit being a drama queen. My IL's fed my DS table food and he's just fine. I had to get over it." I stood my ground and said no. Then she crams her mashed potato covered finger is DD's mouth. I yell at her and tell her she is not allowed alone with my DD ever again. MIL witnessed it and all she has to say is "OP it wasn't enough to hurt her". I left.
This is just one example of their behavior. They have never had consequences before and DH and I feel it's time to start.
I don't know where to even begin. Do we have a face to face and go over boundaries? Do we do a timeout and wait for them to come to us? We're at a loss here but we are ready to stop being doormats.