Moo and Dad are CO **TRIGGER ***due to ongoing emotional abuse, narccisism, shaming, guilt, gossip, manipulation, abusive outbursts, name calling, threats from Moo to harm herself when I was 2 days pp, and of course my ongoing flashbacks and depression due to this and memories of constant physical abuse/ violence towards me on a regular basis growing up. **END TRIGGER *** Many of FOO have become flying monkeys due to MOOS manipulation and playing the victim and gossip about me. They contact me only to convince me to 'get over it', and remind me of how wonderful MOO is and how either they don't believe me or else condone MOOS abuse towards me and remind me of what a horrible, rotten, ungrateful, selfish daughter I am. Hence most of FOO are also CO.
Problem: Do I reach out to my dying aunt (moos sister) who has throat cancer or her daughter / my cuz to console her? Cuz has called me once after I accidentally ran into her with dd (no one on MOOS side has met dd) . I now have the oldest aunt contacting me by an anonymous number, telling me 2nd oldest aunt has only days to live. She was good my parents are/ have been to her/ how much they love me.
She's 11yrs older than me, single no kids and doesn't get how nuts my parents are because she only sees when they play hero. I don't see much for me in our relationship plus we've never really been in touch, although I feel she us genuinely good hearted a day hasn't been involved in the family drama. She's never participated or chimed in like everyone else before.
Her mom is one of 4 sisters in my moms family. My moo and dad are manipulative, abusive narcs who live to surround themselves with followers who worship them, listen to them when they play victim and play hero after they have stomped someone down.
I am in therapy recovering from there abuse. 2 days After my lo was born, moo threatened to harm herself because we weren't having visitors for the first week. Then she got the family to gang up on me and write nasty emails and texts about what a horrible, selfish, ungrateful, mean, hurtful person I was 2 days post partum! Previously she had been Co for 5 years, so this started another Co of course including any family that were involved / supported them.
This cousin didn't chime in but it's really messy a day akward / code pendant and emeshed with every else. I'm sure they'll know if I talk to her. What would you do?
Problem: Do I reach out to my dying aunt (moos sister) who has throat cancer or her daughter / my cuz to console her? Cuz has called me once after I accidentally ran into her with dd (no one on MOOS side has met dd) . I now have the oldest aunt contacting me by an anonymous number, telling me 2nd oldest aunt has only days to live. She was good my parents are/ have been to her/ how much they love me.
She's 11yrs older than me, single no kids and doesn't get how nuts my parents are because she only sees when they play hero. I don't see much for me in our relationship plus we've never really been in touch, although I feel she us genuinely good hearted a day hasn't been involved in the family drama. She's never participated or chimed in like everyone else before.
Her mom is one of 4 sisters in my moms family. My moo and dad are manipulative, abusive narcs who live to surround themselves with followers who worship them, listen to them when they play victim and play hero after they have stomped someone down.
I am in therapy recovering from there abuse. 2 days After my lo was born, moo threatened to harm herself because we weren't having visitors for the first week. Then she got the family to gang up on me and write nasty emails and texts about what a horrible, selfish, ungrateful, mean, hurtful person I was 2 days post partum! Previously she had been Co for 5 years, so this started another Co of course including any family that were involved / supported them.
This cousin didn't chime in but it's really messy a day akward / code pendant and emeshed with every else. I'm sure they'll know if I talk to her. What would you do?