Hi folks, private user here.
DH has three daughters from his first marriage, and I have one son from my relationship. We have a biological daughter.
His daughter is 22 and engaged to be married in April. She got engaged on the 4th of July.
She just graduated college last year. Her dad wanted her to get a job which she didn't. Her fiancé is in med school.
So she lives with us. Having no job, and a wedding on the horizon, she came to us asking for $15k. She wants a fancy golf course for her wedding reception, and a beach wedding instead of a church. She wants 8 bridesmaids, two flower girls and fancy bouquets along with a high end dress. The kicker, her fiancé took an European trip and doesn't have money to contribute. His parents are willing to contribute $5k. For what she wants, $20k won't covee the bill. But yet, wants us pay the majority.
Her dad told her he wasn't footing the bill or even a high amount. This week, she emailed me a breakdown of the overall cost, $30k. I showed it to DH who said he wasn't helping. He told her if she wanted to marry in April, do a church, 4 bridesmaids, and a hotel reception at a reasonable rate, with family and friends. She wants 200 guests.
She's not taking DH offer and wants her own wedding.
She calls me names and a rat who doesn't deserve to be called her mother. At dinner, she brought her fiancé over and he's not getting support from his parents with it. They say $5k and nothing more. He wants to give her what she wants.
She doesn't look for jobs and can't even move without money.
Advice?
DH has three daughters from his first marriage, and I have one son from my relationship. We have a biological daughter.
His daughter is 22 and engaged to be married in April. She got engaged on the 4th of July.
She just graduated college last year. Her dad wanted her to get a job which she didn't. Her fiancé is in med school.
So she lives with us. Having no job, and a wedding on the horizon, she came to us asking for $15k. She wants a fancy golf course for her wedding reception, and a beach wedding instead of a church. She wants 8 bridesmaids, two flower girls and fancy bouquets along with a high end dress. The kicker, her fiancé took an European trip and doesn't have money to contribute. His parents are willing to contribute $5k. For what she wants, $20k won't covee the bill. But yet, wants us pay the majority.
Her dad told her he wasn't footing the bill or even a high amount. This week, she emailed me a breakdown of the overall cost, $30k. I showed it to DH who said he wasn't helping. He told her if she wanted to marry in April, do a church, 4 bridesmaids, and a hotel reception at a reasonable rate, with family and friends. She wants 200 guests.
She's not taking DH offer and wants her own wedding.
She calls me names and a rat who doesn't deserve to be called her mother. At dinner, she brought her fiancé over and he's not getting support from his parents with it. They say $5k and nothing more. He wants to give her what she wants.
She doesn't look for jobs and can't even move without money.
Advice?