I will try to keep this as short as possible. I am new here... my Facebook mommy group says you all have good advice.
My new baby is a whole 8 days old. My husband is currently deployed. He has been gone six months so he missed out on most of this pregnancy. Our other daughter is almost 3.
My pregnancy with YDD was 41+6. I refused induction and she was 9 lbs 8 oz. Completely healthy. My first pregnancy was 40+5 so I knew I would probably go overdue and was fine with that.
MIL has always been nosy and has always rubbed me the wrong way. She is Chilean and always has all these wives tales and stuff and is SUPER pushy. For a solid month before YDD's birth, she was pushing all this stuff to make me go into labor and would call 3 times a day. And if I didn't answer the phone, she would just show up at my house to "check" on me.
I am typically an introvert and very private, so I felt like she was intrusive and not welcome. I invited her to the big stuff like the baby shower and gender reveal and she has an invite to DD's birthday later this month, but other than texting her pictures of ODD, I have been really hands off. She upset me when she found out my mother babysits ODD and said my mother isn't related to DD since I am adopted, so she should not be her primary sitter. I put her in her place and said my mom lives close by so it makes sense for her to watch her.
Well anyway, my sister took ODD when I finally went into labor in the middle of the night. I had a very long labor. I was in transition when MIL waltzed in. DH was watching via Skype.
Apparently she had called the hospital every day for the past 2 weeks asking what room I was in. She started yelling that no one ever tells her anything and SHE should have been the one watching ODD. My mother asked her to leave and she refused and only left when DH told her to.
DH was upset because it ruined a very private moment for us.
So anyway, I am pushing when mom gets a phone call from my sister saying MIL is at the house refusing to leave without ODD. My mom doesn't tell me this and tells my sister to lock the doors and not let her in and call the police if she refuses to leave.
YDD was born a bit later and I held her and was working on breastfeeding when MIL showed. back up at the hospital. The nurses refuse to let her in the room.
I emailed DH pictures and a short video and in a separate email, told him what happened with his mom. He said he would email her and tell her to stop.
We were discharged and my mom is staying with us to help out with ODD. MIL keeps dropping by twice a day every day asking if she can help and says we can't keep her from her granddaughter. We let her in yesterday and I let her hold the baby and she says she looks white compared to ODD who looks just like her Papi. I took the baby back and tried feeding her and she opens up with more unsolicited advice. My hormones are all over the place so I asked her to leave. DD is super upset but I can't deal at the moment. I miss my husband, I have someone bugging the hell out of me, and I have one kid crawling all over me while another one is attached to the boob and I can't get this woman to leave me alone!
HELP!
My new baby is a whole 8 days old. My husband is currently deployed. He has been gone six months so he missed out on most of this pregnancy. Our other daughter is almost 3.
My pregnancy with YDD was 41+6. I refused induction and she was 9 lbs 8 oz. Completely healthy. My first pregnancy was 40+5 so I knew I would probably go overdue and was fine with that.
MIL has always been nosy and has always rubbed me the wrong way. She is Chilean and always has all these wives tales and stuff and is SUPER pushy. For a solid month before YDD's birth, she was pushing all this stuff to make me go into labor and would call 3 times a day. And if I didn't answer the phone, she would just show up at my house to "check" on me.
I am typically an introvert and very private, so I felt like she was intrusive and not welcome. I invited her to the big stuff like the baby shower and gender reveal and she has an invite to DD's birthday later this month, but other than texting her pictures of ODD, I have been really hands off. She upset me when she found out my mother babysits ODD and said my mother isn't related to DD since I am adopted, so she should not be her primary sitter. I put her in her place and said my mom lives close by so it makes sense for her to watch her.
Well anyway, my sister took ODD when I finally went into labor in the middle of the night. I had a very long labor. I was in transition when MIL waltzed in. DH was watching via Skype.
Apparently she had called the hospital every day for the past 2 weeks asking what room I was in. She started yelling that no one ever tells her anything and SHE should have been the one watching ODD. My mother asked her to leave and she refused and only left when DH told her to.
DH was upset because it ruined a very private moment for us.
So anyway, I am pushing when mom gets a phone call from my sister saying MIL is at the house refusing to leave without ODD. My mom doesn't tell me this and tells my sister to lock the doors and not let her in and call the police if she refuses to leave.
YDD was born a bit later and I held her and was working on breastfeeding when MIL showed. back up at the hospital. The nurses refuse to let her in the room.
I emailed DH pictures and a short video and in a separate email, told him what happened with his mom. He said he would email her and tell her to stop.
We were discharged and my mom is staying with us to help out with ODD. MIL keeps dropping by twice a day every day asking if she can help and says we can't keep her from her granddaughter. We let her in yesterday and I let her hold the baby and she says she looks white compared to ODD who looks just like her Papi. I took the baby back and tried feeding her and she opens up with more unsolicited advice. My hormones are all over the place so I asked her to leave. DD is super upset but I can't deal at the moment. I miss my husband, I have someone bugging the hell out of me, and I have one kid crawling all over me while another one is attached to the boob and I can't get this woman to leave me alone!
HELP!