BG: Biomom lost custody of me because of child abuse and neglect. She got me back, but lost me again. She was well educated and grew up in a nice home, she is just mentally deplete and evil. I lived with my grandparents for a few years and in foster care for a few years.
Grandma is 90 years old. I used to think we were so close and she cared so much about me. Now, I do not know if it is age or what, but, she just seems to care about biomom and biomom's feelings, no matter how terrible biomom is to me. I even see how little she seems to care about my children anymore. I have a half sister who is always with her. We have the same mom, different dads. My half sister is almost 50 yrs old. I found out over the last year or so that biomom and biosister have been telling people nasty things about me for years. I live across country from my relatives, so they have no clue about me and my life. They only hear the gossip. They have never been to my home nor do they know me in my life here. All they know is I have a lot of kids. The rest is gossip. Found out that they have all been told my husband is a drunk (never drinks), he gambles all our money away(he never gambles or even goes out with the guys, other than ccassional golf), I cannot handle holding a job (I am a SAHM), CPS has taken my children away and are constantly trying to work with me (CPS has come several times through the years because they keep calling CPS, but CPS has "ruled out" every time). Most recently, I found out they were claiming my children told them that I sexually abuse them and they have tried to protect my children and CPS has been involved. Not true. My children do not have anything to do with them. Getting the idea?
OK..so Grandma does pretend, to my face, like she cares about me. But Grandpa died near the same time as my child died. They are buried next to each other on the same plot. Now, Grandma sends me a text with pictures of Grandpa's headstone from a variety of angles with flowers on it. My child's headstone was not in it. The angles were just so, to omit my child's headstone. It seems to me that it would take effort to get multiple pictures and manage to skip over the stone right next to Grandpa's.
I just feel like, I never had relatives. To make matters worse, my foster parents wanted to adopt me and my biomom laid the guilt on me so bad that I left that great foster home. I had been in more than one home. The first was a regular foster home but the second was a foster-to-adopt home. I left their home after biomom gave me such a hard time. I aged out in the foster care system. In hindsight, I realize biomom was only laying on the guilt so that she did not have the embarrassment of having her child adopted out.
Edited to add: My grandma did not take the pictures of the headstone, a cousin did. The cousin put flowers on everyone's headstones apparently, skipping my child's, and sent the pictures to my grandma and my grandma forwarded to me.
