BG: http://community.babycenter.com/post/a56795581/can_i_just_be_angry_for_a_minute_with_people_who_will_get_it_ramping_up_pg._10
DWIL, I need some help. This situation might not seem like a big deal to some, but it's a serious anxiety spike for me just when I'm starting to do better.
Sis is doing great; she loves her job and is in line for a promotion. She is saving up and making plans to move in with roommates in September. She is looking into what it will take for her to go to school in the fall, though she is thinking about just waiting until she knows what she wants to do, which I fully support in today's economy!
She still keeps in touch with ED via text and Facebook, but respects my rules about not answering questions about or sending/posting pictures of me and the girls. She even created a separate Facebook account where my ED is blocked; I am friends with her only on that one, and have her other account blocked. I don't believe it is my place to press her to CO.
Today, though, she dropped a bomb and I don't know how to handle it. She has plans for ED to come and pick her up and take her to the beach (about 2 hours from me) for the weekend (next weekend). Without hesitation, I said, "She can't pick you up or drop you off here at the house; you'll have to meet her somewhere else." She told me that was fine, but later she talked to DH about it (before I had a chance to mention it) and asked him if he would drive her (she still doesn't have a car) to their meeting place.
DH was very upset/angry. He doesn't get why she even wants to see ED, nevermind spend an entire weekend with her, after everything she put her through. He refused to provide transportation, as he does not want to leave me alone at the house in the event ED shows up there, and even went so far as to say that he wouldn't travel to the beach to pick her up if ED got pissed off and abandoned her there.
DH wants to forbid Sis to have contact with ED while she lives in our house. I told him that I don't think we can really put restrictions on the relationship she can have with ED, as long as she doesn't try to force contact between us and ED or bring ED to the house. But I am really anxious knowing that ED will have a reason to be in my town; she does know my address. I asked DH if we could just leave for the day on the days she is supposed to pick Sis up & drop her off. He said no, that we shouldn't be run out of our own home.
I'm stuck. This could be completely uneventful. It could also be a total disaster. Help.