Hubby & I had visit IL recently and we had discussed many great topics before I deliver my first baby. And the last topic MIL wanted to cover was that she doesn't want to be called grandma.
I'm okay with my son calling her Oma, grandma, granny, Mimi, Gigi, Gemma, etc but she decided she wants to be called Mama Norma. And I'm not okay with it. I have no idea how to tell her no. Hubby even found it weird because he doesn't want to confused the boy with who's his grandma and who's his mom. He wants grandma to be grandma and mom to be mom. In the Hispanic culture, most grandma's are called Mama (& their name/nickname). For example, I call my grandma Mama Chole (nickname) & hubby calls his grandma Mama Yaya (nickname). But hubby grew up only speaking English (& little broken Spanish) & I bilingual to both languages. But we both agree we want our son to call his grandparents grandma & grandpa or mentioned names above.
My sister has 3 children and the two older ones (ages 5 & 4) call my mom grandma and the youngest (age 2) calls her Gemma. So when Hubby heard how my sister's kids call their grandma he liked how it sound and wanted to do the same with his mom. But his mom is dead set on being called Mama Norma.
I sometimes think she wants to be called 'Mama Norma' because she wants to raise our child as her own & be the mom and because she know we'll be raising our child differently than her. I strongly believe that she won't like our parenting style (because we're young parents, 22 & 24) and if she's called Mama Norma she can be the second mom and correct the way we want to raise our son to her way of raising our kid.
MIL had two sons of her own, but honestly I feel like she did a terrible job at it. After hubby (then boyfriend) moved in together, I noticed how MIL raised him and well I told him I didn't like how he was never clean and always rude, he changed afterwards. Hubby noticed and compared himself with his older brother and noticed a huge difference between both of them, to the point where he said he doesn't want to raise his son like his mom raised him & his brother.
So when he heard his mom wanting to be called Mama Norma, he got mad and took it like she wanted to replace me as the mom. He too believe his mom won't like our patenting style due to our age and the fact we will be raising our son differently than how his mom raised him.
We don't want to have drama over how grandma should be called but she's very strongly opinionated and will argue her way through to what she wants.
How can I tell her that Hubby & I don't agree with her being called Mama Norma and that we're not following the Hispanic culture (of grandma names or in general) and that we are raising our son differently (the way we want) than her?
I just simply don't want to tell her no we don't agree and have her argue for a disagreement that's not even worth drama.
I'm okay with my son calling her Oma, grandma, granny, Mimi, Gigi, Gemma, etc but she decided she wants to be called Mama Norma. And I'm not okay with it. I have no idea how to tell her no. Hubby even found it weird because he doesn't want to confused the boy with who's his grandma and who's his mom. He wants grandma to be grandma and mom to be mom. In the Hispanic culture, most grandma's are called Mama (& their name/nickname). For example, I call my grandma Mama Chole (nickname) & hubby calls his grandma Mama Yaya (nickname). But hubby grew up only speaking English (& little broken Spanish) & I bilingual to both languages. But we both agree we want our son to call his grandparents grandma & grandpa or mentioned names above.
My sister has 3 children and the two older ones (ages 5 & 4) call my mom grandma and the youngest (age 2) calls her Gemma. So when Hubby heard how my sister's kids call their grandma he liked how it sound and wanted to do the same with his mom. But his mom is dead set on being called Mama Norma.
I sometimes think she wants to be called 'Mama Norma' because she wants to raise our child as her own & be the mom and because she know we'll be raising our child differently than her. I strongly believe that she won't like our parenting style (because we're young parents, 22 & 24) and if she's called Mama Norma she can be the second mom and correct the way we want to raise our son to her way of raising our kid.
MIL had two sons of her own, but honestly I feel like she did a terrible job at it. After hubby (then boyfriend) moved in together, I noticed how MIL raised him and well I told him I didn't like how he was never clean and always rude, he changed afterwards. Hubby noticed and compared himself with his older brother and noticed a huge difference between both of them, to the point where he said he doesn't want to raise his son like his mom raised him & his brother.
So when he heard his mom wanting to be called Mama Norma, he got mad and took it like she wanted to replace me as the mom. He too believe his mom won't like our patenting style due to our age and the fact we will be raising our son differently than how his mom raised him.
We don't want to have drama over how grandma should be called but she's very strongly opinionated and will argue her way through to what she wants.
How can I tell her that Hubby & I don't agree with her being called Mama Norma and that we're not following the Hispanic culture (of grandma names or in general) and that we are raising our son differently (the way we want) than her?
I just simply don't want to tell her no we don't agree and have her argue for a disagreement that's not even worth drama.