Back story . FIL has been a coke addict on and off for over 30 years. He has been given many warnings from his wife MIL and my dh. She will leave him etc etc. 30 years and still married . (no emotional love). Fast forward ..
We have a 1 year old and just found out FIL has Been using again. ISSUE : MIL did not want to tell us because she didn't want to ruin the relationship between papa and grand baby. In this time of using I have let FIL hold lo and trusted him with her. 👹👹. I am worried as to how MIL has handled this situation and how she did not put lo's safety into consideration. WE have cut off FIL from this point forward. Dh made the choice and I fully support.
We have said yes to MIL seeing lo still. But lo will not be going to their home (FYI she is rarely there without me or dh). But none of us will be going next door. (Oops forgot to say they are my neighbors. Yeah don't say it . wasn't my idea, I have tried to move many times. Blah blah good mortgage, we remodeled house😑![;)]( ";)")
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My issue is how MIL handled the situation and what steps to go forward with. She said she would leave him so many times. I understand its hard to leave the one you love , but they are unhappy etc.. I am now worried about the safety she just so happen to not think about and was more worried about saving face. I have had issues with trust with my lo and I let my guard down a lot. Now I am second guessing myself and how I should go about. I know she will not be left alone with lo anymore (only has happen 3 times for less than an hr). But I feel as if she placed my child in danger by not telling us what was going on and now I don't want her around either.
Any advice would be AMAZING! this is truly rough.
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We have a 1 year old and just found out FIL has Been using again. ISSUE : MIL did not want to tell us because she didn't want to ruin the relationship between papa and grand baby. In this time of using I have let FIL hold lo and trusted him with her. 👹👹. I am worried as to how MIL has handled this situation and how she did not put lo's safety into consideration. WE have cut off FIL from this point forward. Dh made the choice and I fully support.
We have said yes to MIL seeing lo still. But lo will not be going to their home (FYI she is rarely there without me or dh). But none of us will be going next door. (Oops forgot to say they are my neighbors. Yeah don't say it . wasn't my idea, I have tried to move many times. Blah blah good mortgage, we remodeled house😑
. My issue is how MIL handled the situation and what steps to go forward with. She said she would leave him so many times. I understand its hard to leave the one you love , but they are unhappy etc.. I am now worried about the safety she just so happen to not think about and was more worried about saving face. I have had issues with trust with my lo and I let my guard down a lot. Now I am second guessing myself and how I should go about. I know she will not be left alone with lo anymore (only has happen 3 times for less than an hr). But I feel as if she placed my child in danger by not telling us what was going on and now I don't want her around either.
Any advice would be AMAZING! this is truly rough.
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