Background: http://community.babycenter.com/post/a56365639/duh_and_sil_reprise_--_p25_p35_p55_p64_p92_p107_140_update_177?cpg=175
Hello all. 
I realize it's been an obscene amount of time, but I wanted to let you know how things are with all of us. It's hard to believe it's been more than a year.
I'm single momming it now, with 3 kiddos -- a baby BOY was born in October 2015, and he's lovely. 
Aside from some short drama where apparently his father thought he was "owed" a place at my side in the delivery room (as if), everything went swimmingly. Labor and Delivery and care of a newborn on my own was a really emotional and bittersweet experience, but I've accepted that things weren't and aren't perfect -- they never are -- and move on making things the best I can for all my kids. The older two are adjusting well, doing great in school, and when they aren't being normal kids ("will you STOP bickering already?!"), they are a thing of beauty and a joy forever. 
XDH ended up with weekly supervised visitations, but is now going through the process of trying to make them unsupervised. To his credit, he has never missed a visitation, and I suspect the courts will grant his request. He and XSIL were engaged and married before the ink was dry on our divorce, btw, and continue to be gaggingly oblivious to their grotesque behavior and skewed view of reality. They are in looooooooooove. Whatever. Good riddance.
I see them more than I'd like around town, and mutual friends are ... complicated. There are casualties there that make me sad, but what can you do?
Not too his credit he's a POS where money is concerned and causes all sorts of issues trying to manipulate me and the court's decision about child support. I ignore to the best of my ability, and he usually ends up paying (because he doesn't want to be seen as a "deadbeat" by others, I suspect, not out of any sense of duty or decency).
YBro is also divorced (obviously), and actually remarried again very recently. His new wife is very nice, but I suspect he married more out of a need for a companion, maybe a lack of self esteem issue? than anything else. Not my place to judge that, so I try to get along with her the best I can. It's difficult, though, as I don't really feel comfortable doing things with them the way XDH and I used to hang out with YBro and XSIL -- it just brings back lots of icky feelings (probably for YBro too), so we are fairly distant with each other, in general. 
I'm doing well, living on my own, working -- not really dating, but thinking about the idea of it, someday. The first few months I thought "I'll never trust anyone enough to get married again. Not going to happen." ... but now? I don't know. I guess I realize that XDH is pretty much the gold star of morons and not everyone can be that bad. I'll just probably triple-second-guess my judgment of men and move really slowly (like glacier-slow) in relationships as a result.
I was re-reading some of my original posts and it's really amazing 1) how much of that time I barely remember, and was surprised to read about. I felt like an outsider reading someone elses drama-filled posts and getting all mad at this horrible guy treating someone like that and 2) how wonderful and supportive you all were. Which is why I'm here! It was hard to think back on that time enough to come back to this board, but I want you to know (again!) how much help and strength and wisdom I gained from your responses and advice. This is a great place. 