MIL & Deployment

A little BG... I like MIL & we've had no problems in the past. We lived near her for a couple of years & rarely saw her, just the occasional family get together. A year & a half ago we moved several states away & since we moved she's never visited. We've offered to buy her plane tickets for almost every holiday. She doesn't even need to use it for the holiday, but anytime! She always makes up some excuse not to come. I know it bothers my husband, which is why we keep offering, but as far as I'm concerned it's her loss. It's like she has no desire to know her grandchild. (Of course we visit her & the rest of the family.)


Onto the issue. My husband is deploying this fall. He will mobilize in September somewhere within the US. We are expecting baby #2 in October, which he may or may not be able to come home after the birth. Then he gets off four days at thanksgiving to come home & then he will leave the country. MIL is insisting to come visit us for thanksgiving. At first I was alright with this, but now I'm not. The closer it gets to him leaving, the more I want to bond with just our family. If she lived in town & it was just thanksgiving dinner, then fine. But not to stay with us during our last time for a year as a family. No thank you. So, how do I approach this because I don't want to be the controlling wife who won't let MIL see DH right before he leaves. I'm so anxious already & this is making it ten times worse. Help please!