Hello, I have some previous background which I will link below (hopefully I'm doing it right)
http://community.babycenter.com/post/a63482866/i-know-i-am-being-a-brat-but-how-do-i-get-over-this
I was originally intending to go LC with BOO and only see him at family functions (and not really speak to him.) Recently, however, he did something to a different family member (I don't want to go into details as I believe some of my FOO and SIL may lurk here), and I am just done. This thing had a disastrous consequence for another member of my FOO and just goes to show how selfish and what an asshole he is yet again. I am just done. I am enraged, and even though this situation did not directly affect me, I don't want to speak to him ever again. But now here come the pre-CO questions.
1.) By CO-ing him, I am CO-ing my SIL, correct? I know they are a unit but just want to make sure.
2.) Their children. I know, no relationship with the parents = none with the kids. But what if my other FOO (or BOO/SIL) says I shouldn't let this affect my relationship with my DNEs? I truly have nothing against them, but I don't feel I can CO BOO/SIL and have a relationship with their kids.
3.) FMs. Should I let my family know of my decision or just wait until they ask me? Should I be straight forward with the whole "If you get involved/don't respect my choice you can join him in ITO/COville?"
4.) Major holidays and family celebrations. How do I handle these? I am assuming I just don't show up. Do I let whoever is hosting know why or do I just decline. Do I have to decline every invite?
Thank you ladies for any help you can provide. I have never CO a family member before and I am a bit confused on all the details and nuances.