Long time lurker with new name because I used my real name on my normal account.
I have had issues with MIL since ODD was born. I have been a complete doormat and let her get away with a lot of thing for the sake of faaammmmilllyyy. Before I give background I want to say that as of Saturday she is in a TO.
When ODD was born we lived with MIL and it was a complete nightmare. Boundary stomps everywhere although it is also my and DH's fault bc we really didn't set any. MIL fed ODD her first bite of cereal when she was a baby and I have never gotten over it. She and SIL and GMIL were always playing pass the baby and hogging her all the time. We moved out when ODD was about 9 months. I would say around 1 we let ODD go over for weekly sleepovers. They just recently stopped last year but we still let her go over once a week for the day. YDD was born in Oct and things were a little better since we didn't live with her but no great. Some examples-expecting to be at the hospital while I was in labor. DH sent a pic of YDD after she was born (this was at 4am) before I was even done getting cleaned and stitched up she said she was on her way. I shut that down and said no but she still showed up a couple hours later and posted up in my hospital room everyday.
She was constantly doing everything we asked her to not to do. She would overload ODD with crap food all day long. She would kiss in the mouth even though we asked her not to. She gets cold sores and she kissed ODD with an open one when she was a baby and now ODD gets them whenever she gets sick.
The straw that broke the camels back was that on Saturday I noticed a cold sore on YDD. I was getting the girls ready to take them over to MILs when I saw it. Mama bear came out and my spine shinned a little. She has now given both of my children herpes for the rest of their lives. I texted her and told her they would not be coming. Ill post the screen shots of the texts.
Now here is my question. After our text exchange I blocked her on my phone. DH and I have iPhones and we have he same Apple ID so when I blocked her on my phone it blocked her on his too. I don't feel so great about that bc I feel like it is sneaky. I want him to be able to make the decision to block her on his own.
I am also struggling with this from a Christian point of view. I know I'm supposed to forgive and turn the other cheek and all that. A coworker of mine told me I should sit down face to face with her and tell her that this is serious and that when I am not around she needs to act as if she was me. How does a Christian TO someone and still feel ok about it? I'm lost.
What's my next move?
I have had issues with MIL since ODD was born. I have been a complete doormat and let her get away with a lot of thing for the sake of faaammmmilllyyy. Before I give background I want to say that as of Saturday she is in a TO.
When ODD was born we lived with MIL and it was a complete nightmare. Boundary stomps everywhere although it is also my and DH's fault bc we really didn't set any. MIL fed ODD her first bite of cereal when she was a baby and I have never gotten over it. She and SIL and GMIL were always playing pass the baby and hogging her all the time. We moved out when ODD was about 9 months. I would say around 1 we let ODD go over for weekly sleepovers. They just recently stopped last year but we still let her go over once a week for the day. YDD was born in Oct and things were a little better since we didn't live with her but no great. Some examples-expecting to be at the hospital while I was in labor. DH sent a pic of YDD after she was born (this was at 4am) before I was even done getting cleaned and stitched up she said she was on her way. I shut that down and said no but she still showed up a couple hours later and posted up in my hospital room everyday.
She was constantly doing everything we asked her to not to do. She would overload ODD with crap food all day long. She would kiss in the mouth even though we asked her not to. She gets cold sores and she kissed ODD with an open one when she was a baby and now ODD gets them whenever she gets sick.
The straw that broke the camels back was that on Saturday I noticed a cold sore on YDD. I was getting the girls ready to take them over to MILs when I saw it. Mama bear came out and my spine shinned a little. She has now given both of my children herpes for the rest of their lives. I texted her and told her they would not be coming. Ill post the screen shots of the texts.
Now here is my question. After our text exchange I blocked her on my phone. DH and I have iPhones and we have he same Apple ID so when I blocked her on my phone it blocked her on his too. I don't feel so great about that bc I feel like it is sneaky. I want him to be able to make the decision to block her on his own.
I am also struggling with this from a Christian point of view. I know I'm supposed to forgive and turn the other cheek and all that. A coworker of mine told me I should sit down face to face with her and tell her that this is serious and that when I am not around she needs to act as if she was me. How does a Christian TO someone and still feel ok about it? I'm lost.
What's my next move?