My MIL has multiple addictions (pills, alcohol, street drugs) and bipolar disorder. She comes to my home to visit her son and our 4yr old and usually ends up leaving lashing out at me -accusing me of driving a wedge between her and her son, conspiring with her daughter against her (???), shutting her out of my 2nd pregnancy (I am currently 37 weeks). Her outbursts happen after I continually ignore her constant digs at me which I've realized are just attempts to make me start a fight with her in front of my husband. She takes off leaving me an emotional wreck, my 4 yr old confused about why mommy and nanny don't get along and my husband angry with me because 'if I would just put up with her' and not speak up for myself when she crosses boundaries (starting arguments in front of 4yr old, accusing me of trying to ruin her relationship w/ her son, trying to manipulate me in to doing things she wants) then she wouldn't end up in such a state. He refuses to listen when I say that I feel her mental problems and withdrawal issues (constantly on and off multiple wagons) are no excuse for her awful behavior. She has never once apologized for the things she says or does and when I finally told her to stop for the baby's sake as the stress is terrible for a fetus she went on a 3 day bender texting and calling my husband every night threatening suicide because everyone is so mean to her. I am at my wits end and don't know what to do. I've been with my husband for ten years and don't want to give up on us because of her. Other than conflicting on how to deal with her we have a solid relationship. Do I just have to accept that this is the way it is and every few weeks she'll bring strife and unhappiness into our life?
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