About a year ago, PIL told our family and SIL family that they wanted to buy a vacation home that all three families could enjoy (both together as a large group and as individual families).
This was a very nice thing for them to announce and we were all excited.
So then this week, MIL casually announces to us that she and FIL have been browsing websites for vacation homes in a town that is a 90 minute drive from SIL house. This location would mean 6+ hours of travel for us (car/plane/car) and $700 of airfare (if we book the travel 4 months in advance) plus rental car expense for our family.
We know that this is not our money and that the decision is not ours to make. However, we are a little hurt and want to know why, if they wanted this to be a place that both families could enjoy, they are picking a location that so heavily favors SIL’s family.
So my question is, is it appropriate for DH to ask? Is it appropriate for DH to ask them to consider a location that is more equitable (in terms of travel time expense and financial expense) for both families?