So after my amazing husband and I were married, we have 2 beautiful boys now 6&3 , we moved into a decent rental house of our own, working and being happy. All his family lived across the country so we only communicated online, on the phone, and the occasional visit. They appeared to adore me and I loved them... The happy times...
Fast forward to last year, my MIL calls me late one night crying, some crazy scam of some kind happened with their move and now have all their belongings in a truck and nowhere to go. I (stupidly) said of course! Come stay with us! We have a large play room, you guys stay till you figure out what you are gonna do. I stayed up for two days cleaning and rearranging so they'd have their own room, bathroom. Keep in mind it's my. MIL, her husband, her 26 yr old severely disabled daughter, and 3 dogs! Well none of them worked for a couple months, I worked 3 jobs, cooked for EVERYONE, my husband made sure every bill was paid, fast forward to when the MIL husband gets a job they give us a few hundred dollars over a couple months and move out suddenly into a gorgeous house we could never afford, but whatever, I was just glad we could help them and get our house back.
Moving day: I go out to the garage and my MIL husband is acting weird. He walks up to me and says, man I could never get all this moving done with out my go fast. I'm like, what? He pulls out a meth pipe and meth and starts smoking Meth right in front of me! 2 feet from where my boys were coloring! If one of them opened that door they would have seen him clear as day! Once he realized I was angry and not "joining his party" he became nervous, oh don't tell anyone, it's no ones business, this is just a one time thing. I immediately call my husband who is furious tells him to go home to his wife and he isn't allowed at our house anymore...
But it got crazier..
My MIL comes storming over, and comes in our house and attacks me! Screaming at me that I'm a horrible mother, and I am just judging her poor husband, and who am I to judge when I don't bathe my kids(which I do) and I'm just gonna walk out on her precious son, because I'm some horrid Bitch that doesn't love him! And just on and on attacking me!
Well, my husband stuck up for me told them all to get out!
Over the course of a couple months my husband starts reconciling with them, and pleading with me to just drop it and hang out with them again like nothing happened. No apology or discuss, just pretend it never happened. So I did, painfully but for my husband I did.
Now we are pregnant with a baby girl, my MIL first grand daughter, she calls my unborn child "my baby" she even told me I am too overwhelmed with everything going on in my life to bring baby home right away, she thinks my baby should stay with her THE FIRST MONTH OF HER LIFE! when I told her, absolutely not, for one I am breastfeeding she looked at me seriously and said well you can pump.
The woman is unstable and she worries me, my husband is in denial and thinks I'm overreacting. I honestly don't want her anywhere near my baby. My husband just wants to pretend none of the previous things never happened and I should just welcome his mom with open arms, but I can't, I feel overprotective of my daughter already and honestly, want to limit contact with my MIL, how can I do this without upsetting my husband..
Fast forward to last year, my MIL calls me late one night crying, some crazy scam of some kind happened with their move and now have all their belongings in a truck and nowhere to go. I (stupidly) said of course! Come stay with us! We have a large play room, you guys stay till you figure out what you are gonna do. I stayed up for two days cleaning and rearranging so they'd have their own room, bathroom. Keep in mind it's my. MIL, her husband, her 26 yr old severely disabled daughter, and 3 dogs! Well none of them worked for a couple months, I worked 3 jobs, cooked for EVERYONE, my husband made sure every bill was paid, fast forward to when the MIL husband gets a job they give us a few hundred dollars over a couple months and move out suddenly into a gorgeous house we could never afford, but whatever, I was just glad we could help them and get our house back.
Moving day: I go out to the garage and my MIL husband is acting weird. He walks up to me and says, man I could never get all this moving done with out my go fast. I'm like, what? He pulls out a meth pipe and meth and starts smoking Meth right in front of me! 2 feet from where my boys were coloring! If one of them opened that door they would have seen him clear as day! Once he realized I was angry and not "joining his party" he became nervous, oh don't tell anyone, it's no ones business, this is just a one time thing. I immediately call my husband who is furious tells him to go home to his wife and he isn't allowed at our house anymore...
But it got crazier..
My MIL comes storming over, and comes in our house and attacks me! Screaming at me that I'm a horrible mother, and I am just judging her poor husband, and who am I to judge when I don't bathe my kids(which I do) and I'm just gonna walk out on her precious son, because I'm some horrid Bitch that doesn't love him! And just on and on attacking me!
Well, my husband stuck up for me told them all to get out!
Over the course of a couple months my husband starts reconciling with them, and pleading with me to just drop it and hang out with them again like nothing happened. No apology or discuss, just pretend it never happened. So I did, painfully but for my husband I did.
Now we are pregnant with a baby girl, my MIL first grand daughter, she calls my unborn child "my baby" she even told me I am too overwhelmed with everything going on in my life to bring baby home right away, she thinks my baby should stay with her THE FIRST MONTH OF HER LIFE! when I told her, absolutely not, for one I am breastfeeding she looked at me seriously and said well you can pump.
The woman is unstable and she worries me, my husband is in denial and thinks I'm overreacting. I honestly don't want her anywhere near my baby. My husband just wants to pretend none of the previous things never happened and I should just welcome his mom with open arms, but I can't, I feel overprotective of my daughter already and honestly, want to limit contact with my MIL, how can I do this without upsetting my husband..