Seeking privacy as my in laws are members.
DH is 28, I am 27.
We are going through marriage counseling after he cheated on me last year. I am due with our first baby in January. Counseling has been hard, but he and I are working at it and to make things work.
MIL came over a few weeks ago and asked me if this pregnancy is what I wanted. I told her of course as it was a blessing given what we went through, and are working at. She thinks it is not fair to her grandchild to enter the world with two parents dealing with a broken marriage. She wanted me to consider looking at placing DD in a safe environment rather than a home which is broken.
DH and I argue at home after our counseling sessions. Things which are said are hard to take in, but we work at them. She sees how we fight, look lost, out of love, and are not really close as before. She said having a baby makes things very hard, and it would pave the way for DH to creep again and cheat on me. She argued how the late night up with the baby, no sleep, our arguing from counseling, conflicting ideas on what to do with our baby would make it hard, and he may leave us.
She wants me to look at her being a meditator on my side. Having DD in her best interest so that if things go bad with DH, I have a place to stay with her and let her watch DD while I deal with DH. I told him what his mom said and how we need to be better people individually, and then as a team so our DD would have love and not a broken home. He is ready to work on it, and be better for the next five months.
One of the rules I have is to check his phone for any suspicious cheating. He's been giving me his phone with no hesitation. When MIL comes over, she keeps telling him how his actions would affect his child, and he needs to be honest in counseling and to me.
I'm torn. I do not want to bring DD into a broken home. We have five months left, and all is going well. Now I fear what MIL said might come through. I hear stories of how men cheat when the baby comes. I do not want to think he would, but I am looking at what MIL offered to help.
Has anyone been in counseling while pregnant, and faced in my kind of dilemma?