BG: my grandma is a huge boundary stomper. In her mind since she's old (81) she's allowed to do whatever she wants and have no consequences. Examples:
My cousin was in from out of town in February. She and her fiancé were having an engagement shower thing. I went with DH and ODS (he had just turned 2) and I was like 35 weeks with YDS. There was obviously food there and she kept trying to give ODS chocolate. I told her no the first time and the second time I was more firm. "Grandma I told you no. He doesn't need chocolate, he needs to eat his lunch. Please don't give it to him again." She said ok. About fifteen minutes later DH was watching ODS and I heard him call my name and say we were leaving. Turns out my grandma had tried to force feed ODS a three musketeers and when DH shut her down she tried to shove it in DH's mouth. We gathered our stuff and left. I didn't plan on speaking to her again for sure until after the baby was born, quite possibly longer.
Cut to March when YDS was born. We registered as private at the hospital. The only people who even knew I was there were my mom, because she was watching ODS, my sister who was with me and my dad and stepmom. I posted a picture on Facebook about 2 hours after he was born saying "we're doing great but no visitors for now please." That was around 7:30am. Around 11:30 the baby fell asleep and DH and I crashed. (I had an all night labor and we were exhausted.) 11:45 and who walks in? Grandma. She had come to the hospital and bullied the people at the info desk to give our room number. She walked right in and picked up the baby, waking him up and pissing me off. DH immediately took him back and told her she needed to leave. Instant water works. She started crying about how she's so old and could die any minutes and I just wanted to see my great graaaaaaaandbaby. Finally she left. I told DH she was on at least a one year TO.
Wow that was long. Now to today. She's had a habit of showing up to our apartment and buzzing every buzzer until someone lets her in and then banging on my door shouting. Security has removed her twice so far. Again today we hear the buzzer. I don't answer it unless I'm expecting someone so I ignored it. About 4 minutes later I hear knocking on the door. I hand the baby to DH and look through the peephole. Grandma. I called the main office (who know of the problem) and asked for security. They came to remove her and she started hitting the security guards! I mean, she's 81 and has arthritis and osteoporosis so she does hit hard but still. It got so bad the called the police.
On to my question. What's the next step? I used to feel bad for her because she's been on her own since my granda passed in '04. But my unicorn is fully dead now. I even shot it in the head to prevent zombification. Do I CO entirely? Do I tell her she's CO? DH and I are already looking to move. Preferably to a gated community. Our security is great and the people in the office are wonderful but they can only do so much. She's threatened GPR a couple times but I don't think she understands that's not how it works.
