Hello , I have lurked here awhile I am a member of the December birth board. I need an opinion on my situation, it bothers me to even have to write this out because I feel like there aren't normal issues and DH and I shouldn't have the issues because well in my opinion they are nonsense .
I am 27 DH is 28 , we have been together 7 years and married for 2 and a half.
My SIL moved here from their Country of birth 3 months ago to live with us. Everything was going great , until she got bored and couldn't find a job and then all these issues started.
Last week she screenshot a status update I put ON FB and sent it to DH. Saying that I wrote something negative about her. I do accept that I did do a small vent on Facebook about something that happened at LO'S bus stop that day. By the end of the day DH comes home and she tells him she wants to talk to him in private. He comes downstairs to our room after their 10 min convo and blows up at me. Fully screaming saying why do I have a problem with his sister and in the beginning I was nice to her and now I am not, also said that she told him that I told her she wasn't allowed to cook any food and said she felt like she was stealing everytime she went into the refrigerator... then proceeded to say "the food that we buy for this house is for everyone, not just for you and not just for me". Which later i learned that i twas because i had an apple ..1 freaking apple in a bag in the refridge. We basically rugswept the whole ordeal until yesterday when we took a shopping trip and she picked out several packs of cookies( 30 count packs) and put them in the cart, then brought them to her room when we got home so i reminded DH about the things he said about how the food was supposed to be for everyone ..since i got my ass chewwed for a fucking apple i had to see how DH saw this scenario..i was wrong for saying anything because turns out i am still the bad person . Today DH sent me a text this morning and said " I love you but I don't like how you get mad about things in the house , things that have no reason to be problems " and I proceeded to say "really I thought this was over" but it's not. It went to a whole nother level today with him saying that I am the problem, that I am the one picking fights just because I brought the cookies to his attention yesterday ,,but it was ok for him to yell at me for having an apple in a bag in the refrigerator? I can't move past the fact that DH obviously doesn't value our marriage like I do. I mean we are supposed to be United, how do I deal with this`? I've Already confronted SIL but the problem isn't her the problem is that DH has not respected me over this ordeal. I think these are minor issues and not worth arguing over but I just feel betrayed by DH . I know being pregnant doesn't make things easier because Hormones. Is this just a real shit show. Or am I in the wrong?
I am 27 DH is 28 , we have been together 7 years and married for 2 and a half.
My SIL moved here from their Country of birth 3 months ago to live with us. Everything was going great , until she got bored and couldn't find a job and then all these issues started.
Last week she screenshot a status update I put ON FB and sent it to DH. Saying that I wrote something negative about her. I do accept that I did do a small vent on Facebook about something that happened at LO'S bus stop that day. By the end of the day DH comes home and she tells him she wants to talk to him in private. He comes downstairs to our room after their 10 min convo and blows up at me. Fully screaming saying why do I have a problem with his sister and in the beginning I was nice to her and now I am not, also said that she told him that I told her she wasn't allowed to cook any food and said she felt like she was stealing everytime she went into the refrigerator... then proceeded to say "the food that we buy for this house is for everyone, not just for you and not just for me". Which later i learned that i twas because i had an apple ..1 freaking apple in a bag in the refridge. We basically rugswept the whole ordeal until yesterday when we took a shopping trip and she picked out several packs of cookies( 30 count packs) and put them in the cart, then brought them to her room when we got home so i reminded DH about the things he said about how the food was supposed to be for everyone ..since i got my ass chewwed for a fucking apple i had to see how DH saw this scenario..i was wrong for saying anything because turns out i am still the bad person . Today DH sent me a text this morning and said " I love you but I don't like how you get mad about things in the house , things that have no reason to be problems " and I proceeded to say "really I thought this was over" but it's not. It went to a whole nother level today with him saying that I am the problem, that I am the one picking fights just because I brought the cookies to his attention yesterday ,,but it was ok for him to yell at me for having an apple in a bag in the refrigerator? I can't move past the fact that DH obviously doesn't value our marriage like I do. I mean we are supposed to be United, how do I deal with this`? I've Already confronted SIL but the problem isn't her the problem is that DH has not respected me over this ordeal. I think these are minor issues and not worth arguing over but I just feel betrayed by DH . I know being pregnant doesn't make things easier because Hormones. Is this just a real shit show. Or am I in the wrong?