My MIL texted my mom and outright blamed me for all of the issues we are having with her. She's insane and fights with everyone in her family fil enables her and everyone else walks on eggshells. She's the worst but it's sad to give up seeing the rest of his family for her. I'm going to send the both of our parents all copied on an email the following email. Btw she's going to go insane bc she literally can't handle anyone calling her out on anything. So I know she will freak but I'm hoping that with time she will understand either she acts right or she's permanently CO. DH is willing and able to stop talking to her for extended periods of time. When I speak anything positive about his parents it's really just fil who's really nice but an enabler. This is my last straw she can take it our leave it. Any suggestions on my email?!
Hello,
I would have preferred to meet in person but right now that doesn't seem possible (DH refuses). My intention in writing this email is to hopefully be a step closer to finding a solution. I know that Dh absolutely loves his parents and siblings and I admire his parents and the family and life that they've created. I hope that we can move forward and put the past in the past and start new.
I would like to make it clear that since the day I met DH I've been extremely encouraging of him spending as much time as possible with his family. Encouraging would be an understatement. I've practically begged him at times to go spent time with his family (he comes from a large family that I love except MIL) and friends. I hope that from here on the false accusations and inaccurate blaming can end. There were issues before I came into the picture. Myself nor my family are the reason for our current situation. I expect myself and my family to be treated with the same respect that we have given and will continue to give. Since DH has been home from Asia for example I have told him at least 10 times that his family needs to see lo. (It's been two months since they saw lo and MIL is freaking out about it)
When lo was born I was trying to create a lifestyle where lo was with her paternal grandparents at least every week. I was more excited for dh parents then my own when lo was born and I felt a deep obligation to have her paternal grandparents spend a lot of time with her being that she is their first grandchild and their love for children. It was easier for me to stay home with her then to prepare milk, pack and drive her back and forth from her visit. Most mothers do not want to spend a minute away from their brand new baby but I was committed to my plan. I was doing it so she could spend time with her grandparents often and build quality relationships with her family members. The visits became difficult and my hope is that we can get back to a place where all three of us spend a lot of time with her grandparents and all of her family.
DH and I are adults and we have started a family together and we have a lot of love for each other and our daughter. We are trying to create our nuclear family in a healthy and happy way. My hope is that we can be afforded the respect and love that our parents received when they created their families. In addition we are facing a lot of pressure to make Our business successful so that we can take care of our family and this is especially DH main focus right now. Dh like a lot of new dads has the weight of the world on his shoulders. At times the business can make him less available to me and my/his family and friends. I believe in him and admire his determination and dedication to his business and his new family and I will support him through anything.
My hope is that Dh Lo and I can be met without confrontation and aggression at all times through text, voicemails and visits with family and that boundaries can be created and respected.
Thanks and we hope to see everyone soon.
Hello,
I would have preferred to meet in person but right now that doesn't seem possible (DH refuses). My intention in writing this email is to hopefully be a step closer to finding a solution. I know that Dh absolutely loves his parents and siblings and I admire his parents and the family and life that they've created. I hope that we can move forward and put the past in the past and start new.
I would like to make it clear that since the day I met DH I've been extremely encouraging of him spending as much time as possible with his family. Encouraging would be an understatement. I've practically begged him at times to go spent time with his family (he comes from a large family that I love except MIL) and friends. I hope that from here on the false accusations and inaccurate blaming can end. There were issues before I came into the picture. Myself nor my family are the reason for our current situation. I expect myself and my family to be treated with the same respect that we have given and will continue to give. Since DH has been home from Asia for example I have told him at least 10 times that his family needs to see lo. (It's been two months since they saw lo and MIL is freaking out about it)
When lo was born I was trying to create a lifestyle where lo was with her paternal grandparents at least every week. I was more excited for dh parents then my own when lo was born and I felt a deep obligation to have her paternal grandparents spend a lot of time with her being that she is their first grandchild and their love for children. It was easier for me to stay home with her then to prepare milk, pack and drive her back and forth from her visit. Most mothers do not want to spend a minute away from their brand new baby but I was committed to my plan. I was doing it so she could spend time with her grandparents often and build quality relationships with her family members. The visits became difficult and my hope is that we can get back to a place where all three of us spend a lot of time with her grandparents and all of her family.
DH and I are adults and we have started a family together and we have a lot of love for each other and our daughter. We are trying to create our nuclear family in a healthy and happy way. My hope is that we can be afforded the respect and love that our parents received when they created their families. In addition we are facing a lot of pressure to make Our business successful so that we can take care of our family and this is especially DH main focus right now. Dh like a lot of new dads has the weight of the world on his shoulders. At times the business can make him less available to me and my/his family and friends. I believe in him and admire his determination and dedication to his business and his new family and I will support him through anything.
My hope is that Dh Lo and I can be met without confrontation and aggression at all times through text, voicemails and visits with family and that boundaries can be created and respected.
Thanks and we hope to see everyone soon.
