Background: http://community.babycenter.com/post/a59081098/i_just_cant_even-issues_27_31_35_65_update_70
Why does DH pick a fight with me EVERY time he spends more than 10 minutes with his mom? /sigh I thought his mom & I were good. Saw her at the boys' soccer game 2 weekends ago, we chatted, it seemed fine. He came back from her house after talking with her, and she's "not sure where we stand" and "feels uncomfortable bringing it up to me." And his sister is still upset with me. His sister was not ever part of the situation that happened between her mom & me last fall.
So DH is saying that somehow *I* have to "fix it" because it's making HIM uncomfortable. Uhhh,no. Not going to happen.
He's managed to spin this in his head that the time I took away from MIL last fall was to punish her, not to get myself in a place where I could rationally talk about why what she did was wrong without completely losing it. He called it "When you shut my mom out last fall," like it was a failing on my part, not me reaction to HER reacting badly.
I don't plan on bringing anything up with MIL, I've been content with how (in)frequently I've seen her over the past year, and when I do see her, she seems fine with talking with me. I have no idea how to address this with DuH, and while I *could* post over on M&R, you guys have been here for all of my MIL/DuH history.
Patti
