Hi! Going anon, been around for about 3 years. I am having a big surgery this winter. My husband is using up the rest of his vacation days and his aunt is helping me for two days before the new year. I am hiring our babysitter to help me for 10 days after that. Bc I will not be able to lift my kids or anything else over 20lbs for 6 weeks.
On to the issue. My mother called my husband the other day while he's at work, she called twice in a row, so he thought emergency, and answered. She told him she's cancelling her cabin for Christmas and New Years, and coming to stay with the kids while I have surgery and beyond so we don't have to hire someone, and she will spend the holidays with us.
He said he had to talk to me, She said she already put in for the extra time off, and cancelled her trip.
What in the ever loving fuck?!?
So naturally, I'm pissed.
We had already decided not to use my mother, bc when I had my c-section she wanted to help, and was less than helpful. Just not into it. Wanted to watch walking dead all day, after I told her my 19 month old can't be watching that kind of stuff. LESSON LEARNED.
So now I need help in telling her how inappropriate it was to call my husband, disregard the plan we already have, and I don't want to be her holiday sob story on how she could be in a cabin in the woods for a week and instead she's stuck here helping me with kids diapers and cooking and can't watch whatever she wants in front of my kids.
We just went some family events and she could have talked to me then.
I don't want to go off on her, but I do want to be clear that she doesn't get a say in what me or my family does.
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Need help wording this for my mother ud2
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