I am 38 weeks pregnant. DH and I have been happily married for almost 1.5 years, together for almost 5. We are both in our mid 30's. MIL left him to spend his HS Years with his brothers (who were in their early 20's) to move out of state to marry a man she met online. His childhood up until that point was basically her yelling at all of them all the time, after she left he felt abandoned. They have had a strained relationship ever since his teen years and have gone years at a time without speaking. They are currently going on 7 months with no contact after a big fight. Here is my question: do we let her know when the baby arrives or do we just continue the complete no contact as we have been. She has never once checked in on me during this pregnancy so I personally won't be calling her. I haven't had much interaction with her at all since we met, I just want to have my husbands back on this. I know his family is pressuring him to end her time out (on the verge of a complete CO for him). He has not budged and has told them to butt out. We are inviting immediate family to a religious ceremony one week after the birth. If she is told (by us) about the birth she will possibly want to know if she is invited. I know that my husband will consult me on what to do, to tell her the baby has arrived or not. My advice so far has been basically that I will support his decisions, that I want him to make the healthiest choices concerning their relationship and to discuss it with his therapist/ignore what the rest of the family wants. Should I stick to this or be more specific and direct? I will provide more BG if I have left important details out.
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