Hi I'm new here and hoping to gain some perspective . My inlaws and I have never had a great relationship was always kind of awkward and felt like they thought I wasn't good enough for their son. We got married in 2011 and Mil would make passive aggressive comments to me. Once we bought our first home mil acted like it was her home and reorganized our master closet without asking me and said it's only fair to her son my dh that his clothes are the most easy to access. He's tall and I'm very short but she didn't care. I was upset but let it slide. Flash forward to 2014 we had our first baby . He is the only grandchild for both sets of grandparents . My inlaws acted entitled to him from the beginning. They ended up not coming to hospital to meet him they called and wanted to come see him but fil was sick so I told them not to come. They were mad as my parents came to hospital. Two weeks later we Skype with fil and he invites himself down to see the baby . He says he's coming alone as mil is now sick however when he shows up she is with him. I was upset but let it slide as husband didn't think it was an issue. I didn't let mil hold baby but she got to see him. It felt disrespectful to me though. I get so much anxiety when they visit every few months as I feel like they disrespect my wishes for my son. When he was a baby I would ask everyone to wash their hands when they first came in our home before holding baby fil always said his hands were fine and was very aggressive about trying to just take my son , I made him wash his hands it was very awkward though I know he resented me he said I was over protective and worried too much.
He would carry baby away and out of my sight which made me uncomfortable. Flash forward to now, my son is 2 1/2 years old and they visited a few weeks ago and said that father in law would be taking my son disc golfing with him the next day, this caught me off guard as they never asked or mentioned this before. Is this overstepping boundaries for them to say this?
They think that I'm overprotective and disrespect me and my house rules . I feel they feel entitled to alone time my son and I'm not comfortable with that as they don't respect my rules and go behind my back.
I'm very food safety minded since I had my son and follow all food safety guidelines. My inlaws are the opposite and let food sit out over night and still eat and serve it. They last time they visited they stayed with us a few weeks ago they brought an old burger that sat in their car over 10 hours and then snuck it into OUR guest room they didn't tell me as they knew I wouldn't like it. When we asked about it they went off on us saying they can do whatever they wanted and we can't stop them. I'm very upset and hurt that they don't respect our house rules we told them before not to bring perishable food that's been sitting out into our home.do we have the right to ask them not to bring this into our home?
It grosses me out and makes me very uncomfortable. The burger wasn't cooked well done either if that makes a difference and they never wash their hands. Please give me some perspective on this. I hate how they go behind my back just because they don't like me . Thanks in advance .
He would carry baby away and out of my sight which made me uncomfortable. Flash forward to now, my son is 2 1/2 years old and they visited a few weeks ago and said that father in law would be taking my son disc golfing with him the next day, this caught me off guard as they never asked or mentioned this before. Is this overstepping boundaries for them to say this?
They think that I'm overprotective and disrespect me and my house rules . I feel they feel entitled to alone time my son and I'm not comfortable with that as they don't respect my rules and go behind my back.
I'm very food safety minded since I had my son and follow all food safety guidelines. My inlaws are the opposite and let food sit out over night and still eat and serve it. They last time they visited they stayed with us a few weeks ago they brought an old burger that sat in their car over 10 hours and then snuck it into OUR guest room they didn't tell me as they knew I wouldn't like it. When we asked about it they went off on us saying they can do whatever they wanted and we can't stop them. I'm very upset and hurt that they don't respect our house rules we told them before not to bring perishable food that's been sitting out into our home.do we have the right to ask them not to bring this into our home?
It grosses me out and makes me very uncomfortable. The burger wasn't cooked well done either if that makes a difference and they never wash their hands. Please give me some perspective on this. I hate how they go behind my back just because they don't like me . Thanks in advance .