Hi there, I am looking for some support and advice...
My MIL & I had a decent relationship (7 years) before my husband and I welcomed our LO. She was always pushy and controlling but we let her get away with it. After our LO was here, I admit that I changed and can't tolerate her the same.
They live a plane ride away and came when baby was not even a week old. We had just gotten home from the hospital a few days prior and right away she jumped in with trying to take over, asking inappropriate questions about the birth, making comments about both mine and our LO's private parts...
When my husband finally spoke up (politely asking for some privacy for me to breastfeed) she broke down and didn't visit us for a few days, then when she did, she refused to hold the baby-or even sit on the couch-she instead sat on our livingroom floor facing away from me. His parents didn't speak to us for awhile and didn't visit again until baby was 3 months old.
She has "tried" to make amends but always ends it with a dig like how I was so emotional because I had just given birth... (which I'm sure is why and it had nothing to do with the fact that she was uncomfortably interested in mine and my baby's private parts.)
Things currently are not healthy between her and I. It causes me major anxiety anytime they visit (including leading up to the visits) and they told us-not asked-that they are coming for the holidays and staying for 40 days. We told them we are busy and only have 1 week available but they didn't listen and rented a house for all of December and part of January. They also expect us to stay with them (never asked) in a room with "a bunch of twin beds" no less.
We will not be staying with them, especially not on Christmas as we want to wake up in our own home, and it's going to cause WW3. We also have never let them babysit anytime they've come into town and do not plan on allowing them this time... I absolutely do not trust her.
Is there a nice way of dealing with this situation??? I'm so overwhelmed but for the sake of my husband I don't want them to cut him off again.
My MIL & I had a decent relationship (7 years) before my husband and I welcomed our LO. She was always pushy and controlling but we let her get away with it. After our LO was here, I admit that I changed and can't tolerate her the same.
They live a plane ride away and came when baby was not even a week old. We had just gotten home from the hospital a few days prior and right away she jumped in with trying to take over, asking inappropriate questions about the birth, making comments about both mine and our LO's private parts...
When my husband finally spoke up (politely asking for some privacy for me to breastfeed) she broke down and didn't visit us for a few days, then when she did, she refused to hold the baby-or even sit on the couch-she instead sat on our livingroom floor facing away from me. His parents didn't speak to us for awhile and didn't visit again until baby was 3 months old.
She has "tried" to make amends but always ends it with a dig like how I was so emotional because I had just given birth... (which I'm sure is why and it had nothing to do with the fact that she was uncomfortably interested in mine and my baby's private parts.)
Things currently are not healthy between her and I. It causes me major anxiety anytime they visit (including leading up to the visits) and they told us-not asked-that they are coming for the holidays and staying for 40 days. We told them we are busy and only have 1 week available but they didn't listen and rented a house for all of December and part of January. They also expect us to stay with them (never asked) in a room with "a bunch of twin beds" no less.
We will not be staying with them, especially not on Christmas as we want to wake up in our own home, and it's going to cause WW3. We also have never let them babysit anytime they've come into town and do not plan on allowing them this time... I absolutely do not trust her.
Is there a nice way of dealing with this situation??? I'm so overwhelmed but for the sake of my husband I don't want them to cut him off again.
