Hi ladies, New here sent from my birth group! Here goes nothing! Ok so I've been in battling this family for 6 years in December. My SO and I have 2 boys and a little girl on the way. Sorry if this is long and it's not exactly on topic of pregnancy. I just need people who don't know me to give opinions all my friends say I'm in the right and these people are nuts.
So first thing you must know is from day one I haven't gotten along well with his sisters or mother. On and off we get along I don't speak badly of them or allow anyone else to either because they are my children's family and I believe family above all else.... they however do not! Since the day my oldest was born he has never gotten the love and attention the other nieces and nephew receive. We found out SO sister was pregnant the same week we found out I was pregnant she was like 4 months along and I as only like a few weeks... His mother and sisters believe I got pregnant on purpose to "steal her thunder" basically. We had actually gotten engaged in January and I got off all 5 of my medications including my depo to start losing weight we wanted to get married this current November I have Lupus and have a very hard time controlling my weight. I never told them I got off all my meds it wasn't there business. I didn't get pregnant on purpose. My SO middle sister is pissed because I'm due with our daughter about the same time her daughter was born I'm having my membranes stripped the 21st which happens to be middle sisters daughters birthday.... I wasn't even thinkn about it when I scheduled the appointment....besides when they brought it up I thought wow that would be cute for them to have matching birthdays. Apparently I'm wrong again. We have decided to name our little girl Addisyn his oldest sister has 2 girls with a names and his mother thinks I'm picking an a name just to upset her.
Ohhhh and we had to change the wedding date obviously... It's next year Friday October the 13th.... SO and I decided that together... He never once mentioned his sisters birthday was the day before and I don't keep track of their birthdays. His sisters have all agreed that is her weekend and they won't be attending because yet again I'm trying to steal her thunder.
did I mention that his mother also says I'm jealous of her youngest daughter.... now to me that's just fucking weird what do I have to be jealous about? The biggest thing that has set me off though was when the middle sister posted on Facebook that I was a selfish hoe and a bitch and I needed to die. Now typically I don't believe in involving the children and that they should never know what's going on.... but I no longer feel like I should allow someone who wants me dead around me or my children. I don't think me allowing her behavior is ok and I don't want to teach my children the way they treat me is acceptable. Am I wrong?? Should I still continue to let someone who has so publicly wished I was dead still around my kids?? And for the record this is the first time I have ever just sat back and let them all behave in such a shitty manner I'm usually ready to pop off and start shit to... I'm just sick and tired of it.
So first thing you must know is from day one I haven't gotten along well with his sisters or mother. On and off we get along I don't speak badly of them or allow anyone else to either because they are my children's family and I believe family above all else.... they however do not! Since the day my oldest was born he has never gotten the love and attention the other nieces and nephew receive. We found out SO sister was pregnant the same week we found out I was pregnant she was like 4 months along and I as only like a few weeks... His mother and sisters believe I got pregnant on purpose to "steal her thunder" basically. We had actually gotten engaged in January and I got off all 5 of my medications including my depo to start losing weight we wanted to get married this current November I have Lupus and have a very hard time controlling my weight. I never told them I got off all my meds it wasn't there business. I didn't get pregnant on purpose. My SO middle sister is pissed because I'm due with our daughter about the same time her daughter was born I'm having my membranes stripped the 21st which happens to be middle sisters daughters birthday.... I wasn't even thinkn about it when I scheduled the appointment....besides when they brought it up I thought wow that would be cute for them to have matching birthdays. Apparently I'm wrong again. We have decided to name our little girl Addisyn his oldest sister has 2 girls with a names and his mother thinks I'm picking an a name just to upset her.
Ohhhh and we had to change the wedding date obviously... It's next year Friday October the 13th.... SO and I decided that together... He never once mentioned his sisters birthday was the day before and I don't keep track of their birthdays. His sisters have all agreed that is her weekend and they won't be attending because yet again I'm trying to steal her thunder.
did I mention that his mother also says I'm jealous of her youngest daughter.... now to me that's just fucking weird what do I have to be jealous about? The biggest thing that has set me off though was when the middle sister posted on Facebook that I was a selfish hoe and a bitch and I needed to die. Now typically I don't believe in involving the children and that they should never know what's going on.... but I no longer feel like I should allow someone who wants me dead around me or my children. I don't think me allowing her behavior is ok and I don't want to teach my children the way they treat me is acceptable. Am I wrong?? Should I still continue to let someone who has so publicly wished I was dead still around my kids?? And for the record this is the first time I have ever just sat back and let them all behave in such a shitty manner I'm usually ready to pop off and start shit to... I'm just sick and tired of it.