My mil has a bad habit of sending our lo (9 months old) gifts. They're stuff we don't need, the wrong size, and most annoyingly, not on holidays or bdays.
I asked my d(u)h to ask her to stop sending gifts except for bdays and holidays.
Guess what just showed up? A Mother's Day gift. For my son nonetheless. I go to my husband, "I take it you didn't tell her to stop sending gifts?"
Duh "I'm not gonna tell her that. It's rude."
Me "it's not rude. She's rude for sending stuff we don't need and don't have room for."
Duh "you tell her then."
(I've posted before about boundary stomps. Showing up uninvited. Ruining my pp time at the hospital. Telling my then days old lo that she'd kidnap him if he didn't need mommy so much. Gifting me milk chocolate even though I can't have dairy. Trying to buy a relationship with lo. Most recently, wanting to stop by uninvited on Mother's Day. Husband said no. And let them know I'd be in bed by the time they got there.
ILs live about 3 hours away. We, thankfully, only see them once a month. If that. These minor stomps started when I was pregnant. They didn't give two shits about us before I was pregnant. 😒 )
What is a good way to word gift cut offs? I'm not worried about feelings. I'm in an asshole mood after this last gift arrived. 😁
I asked my d(u)h to ask her to stop sending gifts except for bdays and holidays.
Guess what just showed up? A Mother's Day gift. For my son nonetheless. I go to my husband, "I take it you didn't tell her to stop sending gifts?"
Duh "I'm not gonna tell her that. It's rude."
Me "it's not rude. She's rude for sending stuff we don't need and don't have room for."
Duh "you tell her then."
(I've posted before about boundary stomps. Showing up uninvited. Ruining my pp time at the hospital. Telling my then days old lo that she'd kidnap him if he didn't need mommy so much. Gifting me milk chocolate even though I can't have dairy. Trying to buy a relationship with lo. Most recently, wanting to stop by uninvited on Mother's Day. Husband said no. And let them know I'd be in bed by the time they got there.
ILs live about 3 hours away. We, thankfully, only see them once a month. If that. These minor stomps started when I was pregnant. They didn't give two shits about us before I was pregnant. 😒 )
What is a good way to word gift cut offs? I'm not worried about feelings. I'm in an asshole mood after this last gift arrived. 😁