A little background.... My mom and I have a difficult past of her berating, belittling, and smacking me around in my teens. We have a "normal" relationship now for the most part.
She has made a lot of stupid common sense mistakes that are bothering me.
1) She was watching my daughter till late one night while I was at work and her and my step dad started CIO without us. They knew we were considering it but hadn't decided yet.
2) The same time when I picked her up my mom had been using antibacterial wet wipes as diaper wipes.
3) She took her to a festival and gave her cotton candy. She told me 2 weeks later.
4) She had her in her kiddie pool and when she got her out she forgot to change her into a dry diaper and just put her clothes on. She was like that for over and hour and was crying when they walked in the door with her.
In addition to these things she has a very bad back and can barely walk. I don't feel safe having her watch my daughter. She couldn't move fast if Sam was about to get hurt or something.
But I don't want to hurt her feelings. I know I have to say something. But I know it's gonna make her feel attacked and probably depressed. She always wants to do everything with us and even wanted to meet my babysitter at the fair where she was with my daughter. I want her involved but not in every single fun weekend thing we do. She does give us some space but not enough. Any advice on what to do and how? Am I being unreasonable?
She has made a lot of stupid common sense mistakes that are bothering me.
1) She was watching my daughter till late one night while I was at work and her and my step dad started CIO without us. They knew we were considering it but hadn't decided yet.
2) The same time when I picked her up my mom had been using antibacterial wet wipes as diaper wipes.
3) She took her to a festival and gave her cotton candy. She told me 2 weeks later.
4) She had her in her kiddie pool and when she got her out she forgot to change her into a dry diaper and just put her clothes on. She was like that for over and hour and was crying when they walked in the door with her.
In addition to these things she has a very bad back and can barely walk. I don't feel safe having her watch my daughter. She couldn't move fast if Sam was about to get hurt or something.
But I don't want to hurt her feelings. I know I have to say something. But I know it's gonna make her feel attacked and probably depressed. She always wants to do everything with us and even wanted to meet my babysitter at the fair where she was with my daughter. I want her involved but not in every single fun weekend thing we do. She does give us some space but not enough. Any advice on what to do and how? Am I being unreasonable?