Hi ladies, back story is.. When hubby was young he had a ONS with a girl and got her pregnant. He didn't find out baby was his until multiple DNA tests and she was 1 year old.
I had a daughter with a man who left us when I was younger. My DH and I met, got married and had our own son.
I was quite close with my MIL, she attended my birth, we visited lots. Everything seemed fine but the ex didn't like me. She accused me of trying to steal my SD from her, was upset when we announced the pregnancy etc..
When my son was born I noticed when MIL visited she would brag about the ex and SD in front of me and my daughter. How beautiful they were, how great of a mother she is.. How they are always spending time together and would push me to hang out with them both!
It upset me a little as the ex tried to make our life as hard as possible so I felt she was bringing her into our family more than needed.
I spoke to DH and he had a word with her, she flipped and bad mouthed me, knew it was because I had said something so blamed the entire thing on me, DH told her he wouldn't stand for it and she hasn't spoken to me since, it's been 9 months now. DH hasn't spoken to her either but she sent him a happy birthday message months ago.
My husband asked me to not feed into it and just let it be for now. But it still continues to hurt.
She sees SD on the exes time, but not my children. So when we have SD she brags about all the wonderful things her and grandma did. She is only 5 so doesn't understand .. But it raises questions with my 8 year old why we don't see grandma.
I know it's jealousy and insecurity on my behalf, but I can't help but feel inadequate when she invites the ex to all the family functions and I can't go. I see her everyday at school dropping off SD with the ex and I ignore it most of the time but sometimes it all gets too much and really hurts. When I try to talk to my husband about it, he gets upset with me and tells me he can't do anything else about it so to forget about it. Which I know I should.![:(]( ":(")
but I can't help but feel me and my kids are shunned, when I have always been true to my hubby and tried my best.
I also just found out I am pregnant again, so maybe it is the hormones making me extra sensitive these days about it, but I feel very alone and crappy!
Any advice?
I love my hubby very much, but not been accepted in his family puts a strain on our relationship. He doesn't let it bother him.. But I know if my parents were doing the same thing to him, he would be a little unhappy too.
I had a daughter with a man who left us when I was younger. My DH and I met, got married and had our own son.
I was quite close with my MIL, she attended my birth, we visited lots. Everything seemed fine but the ex didn't like me. She accused me of trying to steal my SD from her, was upset when we announced the pregnancy etc..
When my son was born I noticed when MIL visited she would brag about the ex and SD in front of me and my daughter. How beautiful they were, how great of a mother she is.. How they are always spending time together and would push me to hang out with them both!
It upset me a little as the ex tried to make our life as hard as possible so I felt she was bringing her into our family more than needed.
I spoke to DH and he had a word with her, she flipped and bad mouthed me, knew it was because I had said something so blamed the entire thing on me, DH told her he wouldn't stand for it and she hasn't spoken to me since, it's been 9 months now. DH hasn't spoken to her either but she sent him a happy birthday message months ago.
My husband asked me to not feed into it and just let it be for now. But it still continues to hurt.
She sees SD on the exes time, but not my children. So when we have SD she brags about all the wonderful things her and grandma did. She is only 5 so doesn't understand .. But it raises questions with my 8 year old why we don't see grandma.
I know it's jealousy and insecurity on my behalf, but I can't help but feel inadequate when she invites the ex to all the family functions and I can't go. I see her everyday at school dropping off SD with the ex and I ignore it most of the time but sometimes it all gets too much and really hurts. When I try to talk to my husband about it, he gets upset with me and tells me he can't do anything else about it so to forget about it. Which I know I should.
but I can't help but feel me and my kids are shunned, when I have always been true to my hubby and tried my best. I also just found out I am pregnant again, so maybe it is the hormones making me extra sensitive these days about it, but I feel very alone and crappy!
Any advice?
I love my hubby very much, but not been accepted in his family puts a strain on our relationship. He doesn't let it bother him.. But I know if my parents were doing the same thing to him, he would be a little unhappy too.