Hi DWIL,
I made a new account becuase last time someone IRL found me becuase of persoal details and I dont want to risk someone who is CO finding me. Last time I wrote I got great advice and ended up CO DH's sister, the rest of his fmaily was in a 3 month TO and things went pretty well. The BG is that SIL is BSC, ausive to her children and I refuse to be around her, PIL and BILs tend to talk bad behind her back but there is still a bit of enanabiling going on and as a result we are LC with the rest of Dh's foo.
The reason im wiritng today is becuase my usally gold star DH and I are trying to decide how we want to naviagte Holidays this year. We have a 9 month old and I already said that Christmas would be spent with just us, but that I was open to going to his family for Thanksgiving (my family is not local). After we had though we had a good plan though we found out I was pregnant and due in May. DH and I are very excited, but this now changes how I want to spend Thanksgiving. A little bit of relevant BG: Last year when I was pregnant I had CO SIL and refused to be around her, PIl prmosied she would not be at Thanksgiiving, we get there and are told she called the day of adn is coming. She tried to start drama with DH and I, I was 8 months pregnant and told DH we had to go. The rest of the family was not happy becuase we left before dinner but I could tell my blood preassure was going up and SIL was escalating. Turns out my blood preassure was very high and I strgguled with it the rest of pregnancy. I'm not going to say the confirntations with SIL cuased it but the surposed of her coming and the drama did not help. I also felit very betrayed by PIL becuase I tihnk I could have handled things a lot better with a heads up.
Okay this is getting long so im going to try and finish up. I now am very hesitnat about going to PILs for Thanksgiving, since last Thanksgiving SIL throws a hissyfit whenerver we are at PILs and refueset to come becuase she thinks they favor my DD (they don't, they just dont ignore her for SIL kids) but she is all about attention and presents so usally shows up for the HOlidays. DH thinkd we should go and just ignore SIL if she shows up. Another issue is I dont want SIL being infomred of my pregnancy, I didint like that she was infomred when my DD was born. I think if she cant be in the same house as us she dosent need any info about our children. I asked DH to talk to his parents and he said he will but isent surre if its nessary becuase she will find out one way or the other we have another lo. Any thoughts and insights are appreciated!