I am half black half Mexican and my fiance is Italian. We live in Delaware, and were only dating for a year and a half until he proposed to me on Valentine's of this year. His parents live in Texas, as does his other family. When we got engaged, we changed our relationship status on Facebook. Through our dating, I never saw his family. We have set our wedding date to be a year after engagement, so in essence, we are slated to marry in February of 2016. All his family and hometown friends commented and liked on our engagement, and added me on Facebook. Since February, I have gotten close to his family and we made plans to visit Texas for the Fourth of July this year.
We went and were staying at his parents house. Through that stay, his mom and I got close and she embraced me like I was already in the family for many years. However, the one person who didn't take keen to embracing me, is his dad. Whenever I interacted with his dad, he treated me kind, but my perception changed until the night of the fourth. I was in the kitchen with his mom, aunt and sister. Outside of the kitchen is a sitting area. I was helping serve drinks to others in the sitting area and on the outside. My fiance and his dad were in the sitting area. When I went to give them their drinks it was like I was a stranger to his father. His father told me they were having a private conversation and to leave them alone. Awkward moment. While in the kitchen, I overheard his dad say to him "A year and a half? You can't fully know someone in that short time." Seeing I was in ear shot, I decided to listen in. My fiance responded "I love her dad. She's smart, funny and kind. She's not fake and tells it like it is." His dad responded "I don't think you should marry someone who has bed hopped so many times. How many guys has she been with?" My fiance told him "That is not the issue, I love her and she is my soul mate. There is something different about her than my exes and if you stop being close minded, you'll see her for who she really is."
His dad responded "She had a miscarriage, she makes way less than you, and isn't the type we allow into our family. You're going to be the first bringing a black person into this family." My fiance had to remind him that I am half black half mexican. His dad said "I can deal with the black only."
When the night was over, I told him how I overheard the conversation. He apologized and told me that who his father is, is not who he is. He told me not to let his father's words get to me and just to enjoy my time with him and his family. I tried to forget it and enjoy, but couldn't.
In August his parents came to visit Delaware. We had told them they could stay with us, but they decided to stay at a hotel. They were here for a week. During that whole week, his father brought up old stuff which I already knew. He made Mexican jokes, he talked about his son's exes and how he wished his son had chosen a particular girl.
This month his mom, me, and his sister are going to New York to buy bridal stuff. However, in the first week of this month, I found out I am pregnant. I told him the news and he was stoked. We called my parents and his parents. His father wasn't pleased. He asked him to fly out to Texas asap to have a talk. He went and on returning, I asked him what was the talk about that it required him to go to Texas. He didn't say. Only last week did he tell me what it was about. His dad wants him to postpone the wedding. I asked him what his feelings were and he said he isn't listening to his father. On Tuesday, his father called me and said "I am a blunt person and many people don't like my honesty. I don't like you for my son. You bring baggage, I feel you want to trap him, and no offense, I rather he would have brought home an Italian girl instead of a black girl like you.What is it that draws you to him? His money? His car? His house? I know your people. Sway the nice guys, pop out lots of kids for them, then send them to the cleaners."
What should I do?