I'm not sure how to begin.. I know I have a DUH problem.. but it's also my MIL. I had my LO Aug 15 well the first time we came to see his mother, she kept making excuses not to hold him, so I quit trying. Any time he would get a little fussy she would put her two cents in. (MIL: Oh he is hungry, go breast feed him in the next room.
she knows that my LO would of fought me the whole trip if I tried to breastfeed.. )
The trip to the clinic.. I had my LO while my DUH went to get his shot, and I was checking in my LO for his appointment, well she walks over and tried to take my LO and kept asking my DUH (while he is walking away and can't hear her) if she can take him to see her boss.. may I remind you LO is next to me.. so being dumb.. I say go ahead and take him real quick.. well she comes back and tried to give my LO to my DUH, who is on the next floor... so I take him and go sit down..I tried to talk to my DUH about it and said "that's just how my mom is, she didn't mean anything by it.."
FF to this last trip... she kept commenting on how my LO looks just like her even though everyone says LO looks just like me when I was a baby, then LO needed to be changed I made my DUH change him (he hadn't done it at that point) his mother every 2 seconds asked to finish changing him. well her comments were getting on my nerves, so I texted my DUH that I was ready to leave, I was not going to have her upset me and me snap, so as LO was being put in the carseat she tried to put his thumb in his mouth.. that is a huge no no for us... well before I can say anything DUH told her no she tried again he said no again, she said babies who suck their thumbs are better babies... and tried again he said no for the last time, and she said she sucked her thumb till first grade and she was fine.. well both of us said we sucked our thumbs too and our teeth are fucked up so my LO will not.. In the car home he said the same thing as before.... "she is like that... she isn't trying to hurt your feelings"
Couple days later I saw her at walmart and I was busy and still mad so I wasn't up for chit chat... so she goes up to my husband who is working and asked if I was mad at her and instead of telling her the trust he says this gemmm "She is just depressed..."
So on with today.. DUH tells me he is taking LO to her for an hour for her birthday I told him no and he said that its unfair my family sees him but his mom she does a single thing wrong she is the enemy he made me feel crazy for not letting them go... I have no idea how to handle it, I don't trust her... I don't want my LO around her, but every time his mom comes up in conversation it always ends in a fight... even before LO... I would make a comment and he would ask why I hate her... I need DWIL. (I do not need anyone to tell us to get councling we are in the process.)
Now some background: I haven never had an issue with her till my LO, (I only saw her for holidays or trips to the clinic, because she works there..) She basically tries to take care of her grown children, she is raising her sons mentally handicapped daughter, who was only supposed to live to nine. (she is eleven) I could never get my DUH to see his family until LO, like I said I never had much issue with her I didn't see her much.
So am I overreacting???
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Thumb suckers...
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