I am wondering if I am being a little to paranoid and if we are all being a little too sensitive. IL are visiting and offered to take the kiddos so I can get some work done. I had a 4 pm appointment with clients. I took the newborn to a breastfeeding group at 1 pm, while the ILs took ODD out. I then texted FIL to see which store I should meet up with them at 2:30. He called me back to meet that the mall parking lot. He met me in parking lot and wanted to take baby to the car.
I asked him whether he was going to take baby inside or take her home. MIL took ODD shopping. He said he and baby would wait in car. It was 76 F and he was parked in the sun. Before I said anything he said that he she would be in the shade and he would be with her. I told him I was fine since she was with him, but I did not think it was a good idea to wait in the car since it was parked in the sun. He got irritated at me and me not wanting to offend him left DD with him (almost 5 weeks old.)
He got irritated with me like I was questioning him. I back down and let him take her and I headed toward the office. I decided that since I was just going to pump at the office, I would turn around and take him and baby to Starbucks, get a drink and nurse her. I felt like an idiot allowing him to bark at me and back down and I did not want any regrets that I should have stayed with her or not left her with him. He has raised three children, but sometimes his judgment is off. He's not the most hygenic person. He'd never do anything to purposly hurt a child, but he does dumb and idiotic things. When I returned to the parking lot after about 5 minutes, he was sleeping with his window rolled down and everything rolled up. I was hot in the car and I had the windows down driving. I startled him when I walked up to the car in broad daylight.
I invited him in with me to Starbucks. He seemed offended that I came back. He did not want to come into Starbucks. He was kind of a grump. I told him I was going to nurse her since I had over an hour till my clients came in and I would just be at the office drinking a Starbucks and pumping that I would rather spend it with my daughter. The Starbucks was about 30 yards away. He did not want to go, he waited in the car. He said he would come get me with ODD and MIL returned to the car. I got my drink, walked around the mall, went to a store, then sat down to nurse DD. I figured he had my cell number so I could walk around and not groumd myself to Starbucks Then he called me a few minutes (20 since I left him in the parking lot) after that to tell me MIL and ODD were back and they were ready to go.
I know he's pissed at me, but why can't I question him waiting in the car? Why did he get all bent out of shape over that?
He get's offended at something I do at every trip. I am kind of done with him. I can't understand his mubling and I am pissed that he fell asleep in the car with DD. She was asleep. I don't know what happens to infants in hot cars, whether they cry or just sleep to death, but I thought it was pretty lame he was waiting in the car in the sun. He had no ETA of when MIL would be done shopping.
I am also a little burned by them making a mess in the house and not cleaning up after themselves. They are better than before, but DH and I still have to cook and clean for them and I am 5 weeks PP tomorrow.
Tell it to me straight ladies, am I being too overprotective or sensitive?
