To start me and my now husband have been together for almost 6 years. But just got married earlier this year. About 2 months after we got married we got a lovely surprise! We were pregnant! But now everything has gone down hill. Heres some background info: We got pregnant about 6 months before the current pregnancy but ended up losing it... We were devastated and people knew about the baby so it made things weird. Well I've had an OK relationship with his family for the most part. But his grandmother made the comment 2 weeks after it had happened asking us randomly if we were pregnant again. She then kept going saying that she hoped not because we were to young and should of learned from the 1st one. We didn't say anything just left shortly after. But I was so pissed! I refuse to have anything to do with her because of it. Well now we r pregnant again and my dh stopped in a couple months ago while in town and she tore into him about getting married and getting me pregnant so young/fast! Told him we should abort the baby and that we were going to hurt our baby because we were to stupid to do things right. Well my dh went off on her and stormed out saying him and his family wouldn't ever show up to her house again because his wife and baby come first and he's tired of her being a bitch( she's forever putting me and him down). Well his mother then started trying to guilt trip him/us forgiving and forgetting because she wants to see baby. Well she lives with his grandparents and they live 30-45 mins away. She could make an effort to come down and see her when she comes but she doesn't like that says we need to do everything. Well dh and his mom gets into a huge fight over it and one day when he was at work she texts me. She attacks me saying it's all my fault and basically trying to get me to cater to her. Well I put my foot down and told her that i stood by my husbands decision. Well it got worse so I said I didn't have to take this and it's not good to upset me or baby so I kept trying to end it. I showed dh when he got home after crying on him. And he got pissed and told his mom that they need to have a talk. Well before that talk could happen we had our baby shower. I told her before that I wanted no drama and no making shit about her. I also said that I didn't need her to come early to help because we had it all planned out. (I said nicely tho). Well that day comes and guess what?! That bitch came early and cried on me and hugged and kissed me (I hate being touched). Saying that things will change and more nonsense. That pissed me off but I let it go. But then halfway through our shower he was walking his brother to his car because he was leaving when his mother steps in and starts crying and saying she was srry about everything and that things will change... Blah blah blah! Well people kept asking where he was and I had no clue. People were basically making jokes at my expense because he kept disappearing.... So I finally figured out where he went and approached the car. I said that I was missing my other half from the party and that I didn't appreciate what was going on. I was so pissed off that I ended up crying on my grandma and upsetting myself badly! Well they come back up and she acts like nothings wrong! I ignore her and try to enjoy celebrating my beautiful little miracle. But at the end of the shower she trys to get me to come over and hug her and act like everything's fine. Of course she did it in front of everyone and I very clearly said no. Well dh said he understood why I said no but also said he hated that I hurt his mom. Well idc she ruined my baby's day! It was about my family and this beautiful little blessing we r having and she made it about her! She does this every time my dh and I have special events. She ruins them and makes it about her... She even trys to dictate everything about raising my daughter! She's not even her yet and she's doing this! She says that she only had boys and has always wanted girls. Well she had her chance this is my baby and no she doesnt get a say when it comes to her. And when dh or I say no or anything she doesn't like, I am the bad person. Dh wants to still talk to her about everything and give her another chance. But we have been giving chances for years! Dh mother has barely been a mom to him and hurts him all the time, I'm so done with her hurting him. But I don't want her even getting the chance to hurt my daughter... Advice?
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