Going anon for this, because I'm paranoid about ILs recognizing me. Or my own family for that matter. I'm just looking for perspectives on what's going on, and hopefully to get some sense knocked into me.
BG: MIL is currently living with us. Yes, I know, but here's the kicker. She's also CO. She and DH had a huge fight before LO was born, and he essentially told her to stay the hell away from LO. The only time they've spoken in the past year was over her finances, which he handles for her.
She has since retreated into her half of our house (she had the MIL suite) and created her own little apartment. She even has a seperate entrance. She does not initiate any contact with myself or DH, and will pretend she doesn't see us any time we happen to cross paths outside. She has had nothing to do with the baby, and in fact has really only seen him a handful of times.
So, the CO was pretty mutual between her and DH. Me and LO are CO by default, because without DH involved, I have no connection to MIL. On top of the behavior she exhibits that is ridiculous by any standard, she is my full on BEC. I'm pretty sure I'm hers.
Here's where my problem comes in. I feel guilty because I'm happy that she's CO. I don't have to deal with unwanted advice, I don't have to share my kitchen or laundry room with her nitpicking self, I don't have to be the b*tch and refuse to leavel LO alone with her. It was a huge weight lifted off when I no longer had to share my space with this woman, but I'm the only one who's glad about it.
I know DH is not happy about it, and if he could fix things, he would in a heartbeat. I know his family is not happy, and a couple of them have tried to pull CTJ meetings to get him and his mom to reconcile. I guess that's why I feel guilty; because I'm the only one happy about this situation. I might also be feeling a bit of frustration, because I know it might not always be this way. One day, they might make up, and she'll be butting her way in again.
Should I feel guilty? Am I a total b*tch in this situation? I appreciate any advice and/or perspective, and thanks in advance.